“SOME Lebanese men have a wandering eye.” That’s a common conception.
They’re always looking for the next best thing. They can have the hottest girl in town and still check out every other girl they come across. Heck, they may even cheat on their gorgeous girlfriends with the most average-looking chick. Why? Because they can. Because she was willing- and he’ll take whatever he can get. How many guys do you know who have walked away from an easy lay? Not many eh?
They’re all about getting as much as they can without getting caught. Maybe it’s an ego thing. Maybe mamma shouldn’t have pridefully called him a heart breaker since he was 4.
It sux the most when they check you out even when they’re with their girlfriends, and they do that a lot here. What’s worse is when the girlfriend begins giving you the death look. It’s like ” shou? now It’s my fault I needed to pass by your table to get to the washroom? Believe me, the last thing I wanted to do is steal your cheating baboon…”
My post titled “Your boyfriend may be hitting on me” from back in February also discusses what happens when that baboon happens to be your friend’s boyfriend.
So, who do we blame for our men’s obvious indiscretions, is it the girlfriends that turn a blind eye to this sort of behavior, testosterone, or the tramps that are willing to sleep with men already in relationships? You tell me. Bisoux
Update: After much feedback- I would like to stress that the author’s observations do not represent the majority of Lebanese men- there exists a group of honest, loyal, conscientious, decent,genuine men in this country that have eyes only for the beautiful women in their lives. They are so great, we’d like to have their babies.
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You mean wandering eye?
Lebanese people (not just men) are never satisfied with what they have unless they constantly compare themselves to others. They look at each others’ cars, clothes, women, men… They’re just insecure in that way 🙂
I don’t think it is a “Lebanese” thing. It happens everywhere. And women do it too!
Mich- I agree with you 100%. Just to clarify,I don’t mean to always single out Lebanese at all. I say Lebanese because this is happens to be Lebanese blog about Lebanon and so most of my observations are about Lebanese people.
Bisoux
I say insecurities & low self esteem breed in this country…such a sad reality
Thank you Rami, I would have to agree more with your point of view.
Micheline is also right. I have observed many lebanese women hitting on men in ways that made me blush. Once I was actually hit on by a woman with her children right next to her in Lebanon. But that does not give me/ nor anyone the right to sell any propagandas about the decency of Lebanese men nor women.
I think that some people are shameful in Lebanon: true. Yet, I have met some of the most decent people of both sexes in Lebanon and this is offensive to both me and to those people whom are part of the Lebanese society you are targeting.
There’s no doubt that nothing is more annoying than being with a guy who’s looking at other girls. And I find it almost as frustrating to be looked at by a man, who is clearly with his wife/girlfriend. However, I do think you need to be realistic. Men (and women) will always look if they see someone they find attractive. That’s natural. So with my ex-boyfriend I made a rule that he could look as much as he liked when I wasn’t around, but if we were together he had to respect me enough not to look. And he did. In Denmark we have saying something along the lines of “It’s OK to gather appetite outside, as long as you always come home to eat” and I think that’s a good rule to have in a relationship.
There’s a very big leap from wandering eyes to wandering fingers. Nothing wrong with giving all that effort spent shopping, sweating at the gym and preening in front of the mirror a glance of appreciation. Us girls look around just as much, if not more, seeing that we tend to scan the men AND the women.
Cheating is a different issue altogether. I must admit I’m a little offended you call them “tramps”. The only tramp in this particular scenario is the one who pushes aside his/her commitment to “get some”.
As for the average-looking chick luring away a man from his hot hot girlfriend…looks aren’t everything. But yes, it does make you wonder.
Thanks for the Update. I still don’t think it is a Lebanese thing or confined to certain Lebanese men. It happens all over the world and women do it too. It’s a character and not something related to nationality or country. We tend to always blame Lebanon and the Lebanese… there’s a lot worse! 🙂
I think we are starting to get a little too sensitive and or paranoid. We should be able to accept observations without feeling targeted.
I am not qualified to make observations about English men I live in Lebanon and I observe Lebanese habits and I never said A) this is a trait exclusive to Lebanese men nor did I say B) women don’t do it too.
Let’s not put words in each others mouths.
I don’t think anyone is getting sensitive. The blog has created a discussion. I think it’s great that you have started that and are getting responses. It means it is good. The whole point of a blog in my humble opinion is the response, if not we’re writing for ourselves. I apologize if I have said anything to offend. 🙂
Absolutely not, it seems I have offended you and therefore felt the need to respond to your claims saying,”We tend to always blame Lebanon and the Lebanese… there’s a lot worse! :-)”
The fact of the matter is Mich- yes there are a lot of worse things out there in many other countries- but does speaking-out about the less important things in our country mean that we are always blaming Lebanon?
all opinions are welcome on this blog- if I reply to a response it doesn’t mean I don’t welcome it , and that’s why comments are not moderated on this blog.
Bisoux
Heheheh! Khalass, we are agreed then!!! Hope to meet you while I’m in Beirut next week et bisoux at toi 🙂
I dont mind my bf watching. I used to do that with my ex. We used to point out a hot chick or guy. No we were not in an open relationship either. There is no haram in looking at someone sexy or beautiful. Between checking someone out to actually making a move or having the intention to, is not the same. I don’t know how i would feel with another guy. It depends on how honest the relationship is based on. That is not everybody’s case. I do get ivy’s point. Girls feels threatened and some guys think they are hairy Gods.
even when not hungry you still look at the menu 🙂
that’s called looking for a BBD (Bigger Better Deal) it’s something ppl do when they are in a ” I don’t really want this” relationship. so they’ll date someone but keep their radar on for the next best thing. The only real relationship (to be called a relationship) is when both (man and woman) turn off their radar and stop looking and become happy with what they have.
there’s always someone prettier or richer, better physique, bigger, better in bed, funnier or you name it… so when men AND women stop looking , everyone will be happy.
I do like Abaretruth’s point of view, a couple can be secure enough to look at other ppl together and even make it like a litle game or laugh about it… but Intentions must be clear and both must be mature enough to know where to draw the line.
heheheheh but what’s with Hairy Gods… heyyy !! 😀
cheers
Hairy gods is a reference to guys who thinks they are some hot shot. They would interrupt your drink, etc. no matter who you are with. I was having a drink with a male friend. We were sitting on the bar. It was obvious that we were talking and would have prefered not to be interrupted. So the guys sticks his head in the middle and start chatting me up. No respect at all. He clearly thought I wouldn’t want to miss my chance since he was such a catch.
My male ego would’ve made me slap the Hairy bastard bold! heheh I guess you shooed him off!
Some guys are ruining the whole game for the rest of us! 😉
My friend had a high pitch note in his voice that night. So the guy eventually backed off. It was quite funny actually.
True, but most of us outgrow it by the time we hit 35 and realize that, contrary to what our mothers told us, we’re really not all that. 🙂
Meedo.
i meant low-pitch
Knowing that you can makes a man feel like Superman.
To catch a fish and then throw it back in the water is cruel, though more satisfying than a nasty dish.
Ivy darling, I walk away from tens of easy lays every single day.
lazizeh enteh ya benet!! thumbs up!!!
I need advise. I have been with a lebanse guy for 5 years and never introduced me to his family. He was married to a irish women and then divorced. This was his second marriage. He made me believe that we were going to get married and have a life together. He left about 5 months ago and now he is in engaged to a lebanse women that is from his church and his sisters best friend. I am so hurt that I can’t even function. I am an from the U.S. and have several nationalities (not middle east). I want him back but I know he is gone. He is going to marry this women and I know I should be thankful that God knew with man wasn’t good for me but I can’t get over that he could move on so quickly and remarry. His divorce has only been completed this May. Can anyone give me advise?
Girl, u are lucky. Obviously this guy doesn’t deserve u.
1) he either didn’t have the gut to commit to u, as it seems he preferred a Lebanese women.
Do u want to be with a weak, gutless excuse of a man ?
2) He was never serious. He just pretended to be serious to get his way around. He might even been playing the field during ur relationship
This seems like the plausible explanation.
It might hurt now but u are better off without him. Do u care to be on his never-ending divorce list?
Eliminate any trace of this guy and move on with ur life. Someone else out there is the right person for u.
This article is very hard for me to read…
I am a western girl working in the Middle east. I have been serious with a lebanese man for 10 months, we live together and i have met his family, and we plan to holiday in each others countries in the upcoming months. HE (yes he) always talks about our future together, and he is very keen to start a family together. I trust him when he goes home to lebanon and he trusts me when i go home too. We have the same group of friends and We have what seems like (and very much is) a perfect relationship.
In saying that….I am sick to DEATH of lebanese/arabic women (not to mention every other nationalities) thinking they have the god given right on telling me “Habibiiiii!!! Sweeetthearttt!!! he is cheating on you!!!”
You have no idea how much this hurts to keep being told this, and i’m so sick and tired of defending our relationship….
Now i can appreciate this article, its a personal observation and i don’t mind reading this at all, its true lebanese men do not have the best reputation, however a message to all the women who tell western girls that her man is cheating on him just because of he is lebanese: Focus on your own relationships instead of passing judgment on a man you do not know, it just feels like SOMEONE is jealous.
Narelle….so sorry 2 hear this….If u want to remain with this man u must ignore those people who trouble u with their comments…to heck with them!!! They r no better than u, right? Build up a thick skin or u will not survive in your relationship, period! He can be the most amazing man, but never forget his family (back home) is his TOP priority, point final!!!! I do not mean to discourage, but please do ur self a great service, try to detach from him emotionally and u have a chance of surviving in ur relationship……
OMG….can I say I have been reading many of these blogs re:. Lebanese men and their “traits”. I must say most of them are spot on!!! It’s amazing how true they are…I am a Canadian (European background) and can attest to the difficulties of being married to a Lebanese man!!! Life with them is constant DRAMA….plain and simple!!!!! Their families (back home, especially their Mama’s) are their TOP priority, PERIOD!!! I just thank God I have the loving/caring family that I do have, or else I would’ve been done for a long time ago!!! If I knew back then what I know now there is no way I would’ve married my husband….NO WAY!!! Sorry, do not mean 2 offend, but it is the truth!! They only respect their own kind that is it. Anyway, have no other choice but to continue. We have 2 kids…so I’m stuck in this for the next 10 years, or so…I have decided to sacrifice my happiness so that our children grow up with mother and father together!!!! If I had to advise a foreign woman to think she has a happy future with Lebanese man, think again…and if ur relationship starts troublesome it will always be that way they are way too screwed up in the head and as one responder stated….totally emotionally unavailable!! So u will literally be ln ur own, I kid u not!!
i just don’t know what to say! after all been reading all this about Lebanese men, its just bring totally break me in pieces completely, i just could stop crying and thinking what else do i have to do! i been behaving, patience, faithful with my entire life ever since we start dating, its just so much to complain about him, but pretty much, i got all the answer. but honestly i still do love him, we haven’t see each other for almost a month now bcoz of Ramadan and he’s fasting, i just really hope he will tell me what he really wants from me after all 10 months been together.