1) A smart yet very sexy women- men are picky, they wanna be able to have a challenging conversation with a girl yet they want her to resemble somewhat of a cover-girl. She also needs to be fun and exciting – always up for having a good time.
2) An open-minded yet conservative girl- she needs to be able to sleep- out on the getaway weekends to Faraya- yet they prefer her to be from a family that actually calls to ask her where she is . ( Bint 3ayleh ya3ni)
3)She needs to be confident enough to not complain about her body, yet cool enough to share a good hearty meal with him, ya3ni if he feels like having Barbar after the Sahra- she better not complain about her weight.
4)Respect, respect, respect- men hate it when we go off on them- this is the biggest threat to their masculinity, no matter how bad they eff-up , they don’t expect you to scold them for it. (Yes, we share diff ideas of respect- they think it’s us not shouting at them- we think it’s them not making us look bad by checking out our competition.)
5) Boy time. Alone. Men need their space, even if it’s sitting home playing pS3 with their best buds, when they feel this no longer becomes an option for them- they’ll be looking for away OUT.
The list goes on – but I’d prefer to hear from others too! Bisoux
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Is that so much to ask for?
Just Kidding… Some of these points are well made and true but some not so… Plus on the other side, look at the high standards Lebanese women look for in a guy!!
If by high standards you mean- $$$- then sadly your right
In point one you forgot to say that she shouldn’t be too smart for him not to feel that she can someday control him and influence his decisions
That’s so true! Always make him feel like he came up with the idea
I have to agree to some of your points, but for me personally, I hate cover girls who are all made of plastic, a lot of make-up and high maintenance makes me want to throw up!
Point 4 is true, but to be fair, a man has to give respect in order to receive it, it’s a two-way street.
Point 5: Yes, we do need our space from time to time, not necessarily on PS3
6. Its ok for him to have a relationship past but not for you.
7. His friends are always first, but you have to put him first.
8. You should laugh at all his jokes even if they are lame.
Very good points you made!! yet every man differently, but #4&5 are accurate at any case
Point number 5 is the most important of them all.
Some of these men belong to this artistic and intellectual milieu… they want a girl that bet3abillo rasso, that they can discuss with her very specific subjects and do cool activities…of course she should have a Bac+100 and be super hot and have two or three extra skills with that or something… but yet it’s better for her to stop intellectualizing everything when she asks for explanations about why she should drop her projects for the possible love between them…absurd! but true! and why would continuing what made her “bet3abillo rasso” become an obstacle between them ? someone has to make concessions? why?
- She should make less money than him
- Lady in the street. Freak in the sheets.
“BeirutBoy” you should change your name to “Caveman”
Haha very interesting. I can tell you that each boy has his own caracteristics. Point 5 for me is not important and I don’t like plastic girls. Other points can be discussed but you are not far from hitting an average lebanese guy by what you are saying. You don’t have to forget that in Lebanon there’s 6 girls to each guy (statistics) so since there is high demand (from girls) and low offer, guys can filter :p
A Lebanese guy left me bewildered and confused. Intensely, we met Friday night. Eyes locked on each other and passionate kisses. He gave me his business card and wanted to take me out the next evening. I wanted to play low key, not get all dolled up and go out again. He offered to come to his place, chill. Which I allowed to happen. I ended up staying the night and we made out from dusk until dawn, literally. I was a good girl and didn’t go all the way. He wanted to see me Sunday evening but I decided to not see him right away. Monday evening, he called me wanting to discuss with me about being in a “exclusive dating” relationship where he clearly explained he didn’t want me to date other men nor he would date other women. He expressed he wanted to see me at least 3-4 times a week minimum. I never been in a situation as such where a man has criteria for this. However, I agreed. Maybe it was time for me to date 1 guy exclusively. Something new for me but I compromised. He tells me that he is a man that is nto very verbal but a man that takes action. So he would show me how what he feels for me. He expressed to me he wanted to see me Tuesday evening, and I wanted to as well but had family (parents) obligations. We made plans to see each other Wednesday and that he wanted to accompany me to my event I was attending. I misunderstood his texts apparently and had some miscommunication about how we were meeting up. He got pissed off and cut all communication from me. He then sends me an e-mail on the evening of Cinco de Mayo after no texts, no phone calls from either of us explaining himself. Now, he REALLY likes me but cannot even see me or date me because it made him realize that if he gets into this, he might be hurting himself or me in the future. He plans to move back to Lebanon eventually etc. But he wants to remain friends? Now, I cannot get him off my mind. I cannot believe this Lebanese man for the few moments, a few days has left this impression on me. Advice anyone?
I met a lebanese man online… Never did online thing before until now.
We met and he was sweet and kind and loving. It all seemed so fake and superficial yet deep to him. He was a touchy feely type of guy who showed intense interest and expressed that we were a match for one another and how did I know. I didnt know….. Only he knew we were fit for one another.
We proceeded and continued to text. He only saw about three to four times. He burned me several times due to family issues and friend issues of people needing him to cover a situation. Every one else in his world was apparently more important to him than myself. He became a workaholic and used that as an excuse that he couldnt see me or take me out due to no money. From paying child support and rent etc… He continued his passionate texting and calling me “babygirl” all the time. he failed in actions not words. Dont know if all lebanese men are like this but I have no desire to date one again. He felt that texting and talking on the phone was a solid relationship. After about 4mos of this I let him go. Told him what I wanted in a relationship. He stated his situation was not allowing him to see me due to finances, etc. He has 2 children from a previous marriage. I can see why he was divorced. He failed with his wife and will probably fail at every relationship thereafter due to not being available in a relationship. Emphasizing too much on work and earning money. Relationships were last on his mind. He was very close to his mother and would hang up with me if she was calling him or any family member for that matter. I do not recommend dating men from other cultures and beliefs no matter how sweet they appear to be or good looking. Its a facade. I do miss him because we connected intellectually and became like friends and texted almost daily. We trusted each other with our daily news and it seemed we had a connection. But he was fine with me ending it. said he understood. And that he would not look for anyone else cuz he worked too much. Wow.
Hi just wondering if your Toronto because this situation sounds like the same situation my friend is in.
i cant ask more……………… or less
its nice to meet you ???
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lebanese guys , huh dont even think about, i have bf from lebanon (leaving usa) and i am myself europian , first month it was kind of ok but after official rilationship and name that i was his gf ,oh boy here we are drama. i just love him and cant leave him like nothing happend ,but trust me ppl i do sufer lot of things from his culture , long story short, lebanese guys are very very drama , and women does not have any rights in family or out side of family and they respect mothers morthen wife . so think about before you get deep into relationship like me , do you really want drama life ? !
Oh gf you are so right. Im an American and mt bf is also from Lebanon. I love him so much like you do yours. But Drama is all we seem to have. No matter how hard you try to please u can’t. But at the same time its so hard to walk away I do understand. Good luck to you.
oh gf’s out there who are thinking abt dating lebanese guys- if you not lebanese dont do it- i agree with just some if you dont want drama in your life – dont date leb guys- yes they can be sweet and kind but they are not bf material- nancy i know all about what you saying
yes they may drive nice cars etc…but wont share their money with you- all they want is free time- i dont see any other guy wanting so much time to themselves- whats the deal???? with giving them all this free time you suppose to be dating- i may as well be single- LOL
Apparently, Lebanese guys everywhere are screwing girls over.
which is funny no? it takes a real woman to keep a leb in her arms! peace!
Oh, yes indeed.
There is positivity and negativity in everything. Thank you Allah I found a really beautiful Lebanese man. BUT he is 38 and I am 29. I think the key is to find a MAN over 30 … or so… its not about being lebanese, as there are many PEOPLE who abuse trust. Yes, lebanese culture can be quite confusing and full on… but its full on for lebanese people and most of the time it needs to be for show, to save face and respect for our elders. You will find many people liberal and free in their views on life, whether they are christian or muslim. Its about following your heart. There are many demands on what a lebanese man wants from a woman, however you dont have to commit to those demands, you are free to chose… and what isnt perfect for you just isnt your NASIB.
I think the list is right most of the time however… the key word is NAMRADE they hate it… it doesnt work and the ‘attitude’ thing of the west doesnt work on them either… just a little tip.
Peace
I totally agree with u! Allah blessed us with good men!
I can’t agree more with Mariam, enough said. International ladies take it from a native and RUN FOR YOUR LIVES
and keep the Lebz for Us! hahaha i like your post it is tricky,….There is no woman like a lebanese woman,…and leb boys are there for the call!
Yeah I think you just need to go on a really nice romance tours one of these days.
OMG Ladies dating Lebanese men help me plse. I have met a handsome amazing man from Lebanon working as a civil engineer in Iraq. He couldn’t be more charming and sweet, compimentary to me, and yet by the 4 or 5th message he was telling me he wanted to meet my father and one day be his son. I am from a wealthy family, very blonde, slender and he treats me as if I am some goddess from heaven, speaking of marriage on day, our babies we will have etc……….I tried to fight it off w/him, over and over. He is 26 and I am 24. He is coming out of a 5 year engagement w/a Lebanese girl, very attractive and finaly told me, he had sex w/other women while engaged to her b/c no normal healthy man could wait 5 years. I thought I was no fool, would never fall for lines like this but he is so utterly charming handsome I seem to not be able to get out from him. God he is utterly charming BUT as someone said above, calls me his Baby Girl. Also on his FB page on “Likes” the book “Lolita” is one of his favs. Now for those who don’t know, that book is about a pedo ending up marrying his young little step daughter after the wife dies. IDK but to have this as a favorite book? Flat out freaks me out, yet I let him get away w/so much b/c we are online and things can get confusing and backwards. So all he does it worship me I think b/c I am a pale blue eyed very blonde girl who has come from a neglected and wealthy family, He must see me as somewhat needy for love. I just am finding I cannot call him on what seems to be bullshit to me plus he doesn’t answer my questions abt important things on may occasions, as if he doesn’t hear me or something. He speaks to me as if I am the only girl on the planet for him and this sort of feelings and talk go straight to the empty lonely places in me. I have had bf’s and all this and been quite independent etc…..they are American but somehow this man has a hold on me I cannot shake. He says he is dangerously in love w/me and will let nothing separate us. He knows my home town and where I live now but that’s it. I am afraid he won’t let go of me and somehow will find me. Now he wants my phone no and address and I don’t want to give it to him b/c I fear him showing up one day and being crazy. Cause he say s he would die w/out me blah blah blah. I need help and advice plse Ladies, slap me silly into seeing what I cannot please
thanks in advance.
Heh entertaining blog.
It is simple enough, yet i do not expect most of you to grasp it.
The standard throughoubred and raised lebanese male specimen is a worthless scumbag. These people are raised on a straight up idiotic,chauvanistic, and egocentric culture. Massive red X on those.
What you need is the mixed culture breed, ergo lebanese men who have spent a good portion of their lives abroad AWAY FROM ARAB INFLUENCE. The result is usually an intellectual with a much wider perspective on life, the good values of lebanon such as chivalry and a sense of honor, as well as consideration. The lebanese are not considerate by nature, they are a highly selfish populace. This issue dissipates upon exposure to western civilization.
I am such a sample specimen, and i have been blown off by europeans and americans before due to being lebanese, only to turn their opinions and consequently their lives upside down and inside out with the turn of a phrase.
Do not despair ladies, there is a god, and he comes in the form of the travelled and cultured lebanese man, the homebrewed kind is simply trash.
The ego is impossible to get rid of however :>
Thank you for your comment. I am noticing w/my Lebanese bf, in spite of his civil engineering degree, (and I have an art history degree Ivy League), that no matter how much I try to discourse with him—and a variety of topics—that he just doesn’t try or attempt to expand the discussion. We seem to be stuck in “how much he desires me” or “getting married” (sooner for him than later) and “how happy he will make me”. However I can say right now if he doesn’t find me fascinating now-in the bloom of romantic love-what will this say later? Sorry for the rhetorical question here.
I ask him question after question: crickets. I ask him “may I ask you some questions?” and get: “of course my love, anything……..” I ask and no answer. This is all via FB now. His silence continues into the next day where upon he writes me greeting me with the new day and all is love and light. It has turned into such a discernable pattern that I can’t let this go.
Here’s the caveat for me: he is so genuinely kind and sweet in all other areas that I cannot “see” the disconnect as well. At first I thought maybe there’s other women, etc………But now I ‘m thinking it is the differences within our cultures. I am used to Western men talking to me about everything, and now with him, I am thinking he perhaps was raised not to value intricate conversations between men and women. I write and write of my feelings and the feedback I get from him is “My girl’ My sweet and good crazy girl”, “we will be so happy together”, “I need you now” sort of thing.
I need help so much. He is so sweet and good, the thought of hurting him is just too much for me to bear now. He genuinely seems innocent and oblivous! HELP please.
It’s really entertaining to read the above points, but really can you generalize Lebanese men or any men???? A Lebanese men is a mix of different cultures, every person is unique in their way of looking at life and their needs.
While everyone is just adding their personal point of views based on relationships, acquiantances, ……., I doubt you can ever have a true list of “What Lebanses Men Really Want” or in my case “What Lebanese Women Really Want”… :p
Cheers,
Hi fellas, I am an Iraqi woman marreid to a lebanese guy, we have 3 kids together, knows him for 8 years, marreid for 6 years. I was born and rasied in the US, left my job, my family, just to be with the man I love. I love the topic and the comments, I think thery are geat and 100% true. From my experince,I would like to say few things. First, there is one thing I dont like is that the girl has to TSAYER the man all the time weather what he is talking about is right or wrong,she always must say “YES” to get what she wants.in Arabic, we say “2oolilou EH, ou bil akhir i3mali ili baddik yah” Trust me guys, a lot of women do it, and it works, but I dont think it is right, becasue it is fake and beased on MASLA7ASecond, lebanese men like….NO, the correct word for thar is LOVE,ADORE to be respected. ATTENTION:- If you disrespect your Leb man once in your life, it will follow you to your grave “ra7 til7a2ik hal 3amleh il sawdeh 6ool 7ayatek” so be careful.Third, no matter how old lebanese men are, and how sexy and attractive you look, they like women,LOL.It is just in their blood.Forth, They love to play 400 for long hours min 3ashieh la wesh il sobi7.Fifth, Lebanese men are very stuborn,each one stick to his idea even if they know it is wrong,probably becasue thats related to their tribes or their political point view.Fifth, Everybody talks politics.By the Way, this is not critisism.I have the Lebanese citizenship. I adore my husbnad very much and I am thankful for sharing my life with him.
only a good women can think the way you do
all the best for you and your husband
Noooo shu hal haki,…lebanese we dont like neswen,..that is why our neswen are not made from celicone lolll,..i really like your description,…god bless your familly,…try to play 400 Vs ur husband,..and pretend that you won even if he did,..this will make him crazy,..then you will go for your fourth Kid!
Generally speaking, educated and cultured Lebanese men are the best any woman can hope for in a lover, a boyfriend or a husband. The golden rule is to never ever disrespect him or smirk in his face. I have also noticed that Lebanese people are in general very materialistic and some of them are just plain hard headed garbage, both men and women.
100%
Logic !
I am a South African girl, also slim n blonde, and dated a leb guy for 6 years, he was my first everything and I really only had him in mind. We broke up a few times during the six years, and his distinct pride would come out every time as I had to be the one to crawl back and make up. He ushered the words ” you’re the only one for me, I could never see myself with anyone else” a few times. I was well and truly in love. The last time we broke up, a year ago, he told me he had been with two other women in the two months we were broken up for. I was devastated, but the feelings I had for him were still full throttle, so I took him back. In the initial stages of the relationship, he supported me, then for a long period of time I supported him. When we got back together the last time he had worked his way up in the world and was now rocking a gorgeous car and his own business-which didnt do anything but blow up his ego!! About a month ago he started getting distant. He also cried financial wolf, started staying at work later, and didnt seem as interested in the relationship anymore. Very recently he started talking me down infront of his friends, saying he doesnt know what he wants anymore, and telling me how I need to be if I want to remain being ‘his woman’. I thought maybe issues at work were stressing him out, and I should fight for the relationship, even though I was going through a v difficult time myself, the half of which I didnt tell him. A week ago he ended it, ON BLACKBERRY MESSENGER, not even to my face, saying he doesnt know what he wants anymore, and that he cant keep me hanging on. Then it comes out he was interested in a leb woman who works accross the road from his shop, for a while now, but he cant get with her because of the different religions (apparently that is a big thing in lebanon). To say I was shattered is an understatement. I had trusted this guy with my heart and soul and he had all but thrown it to the dogs. And done it in such a cowardly fashion!! My belief in all men is completely non existent, esp as I told him that all I need from his side is for him to be faithful…what I learnt from this is key to all women out there dating these shady men:
1. If he in any way tells you how he needs you to be, RUN A MILE-you are beautiful as you are and you need to accept who you are first. Tell him to go find THAT woman because you are only willing to offer yourself. There may be ten women to every one man, but quality is a thousand times more important than quantity;)
2. Your instinct is the first most powerful force in your body. If your gut tells you something is up-follow it!! That little voice is 99% of the time SPOT ON, and will grow stronger the more you listen.
3. Ladies, you need to get yourselves independent, no matter what your position. Study further, if you cant, get a job and save up-work your way to financial independance-DONT RELY ON A MAN-if anything happens tomorrow, you want to atleast know that you are financially free. He dropped me after SIX YRS-they can detach emotionally and you will be dumped to deal with it yourself-become independant. It gives them a sense too that youre not as attached as they’d like and they treat you better for it:)
4. YOU are the most important being in your life. The only other ppl more important than you will be your children. DO NOT give up your life-long hopes and dreams for a man-acchieve them first, then find Mr Right.
5. DONT show/tell a man more than he needs to know-tell him you love him, but dont overdo anything-you need to keep them thinking that you will be absolutely stable and able to move on if anything has to happen ie, if they mess up:) You are a lot stronger than you think. You can get by tomorrow without someone/ something that you relied on today. Always reassure yourself of your strength. God gave us tremendous emotional resilience.
6. Respect is a million times more important than love. Once that is gone , the relationship WILL fold. And respect works 100% BOTH WAYS!!
7. Dont crawl back. He has left you? Run out with someone else? Thats fine. Let him have her because she will never be YOU. If he comes back, and you feel up to it, talk it out. If you dont ever hear from him, then so be it. He is the hunter and should be the man in the relationship-DONT EVER take on that role. Its not your place and he will lose respect for you. Set a time limit too, if he comes back after say six months, its too late buddy!!
8. Dont give yourself false hope. Its over (given a time limit), you are strong and deserve a million times better. Pick up the pieces, and move on. Everyday you will get stronger. Dont ever give up.
9. Dont make him your life!! You, and he, need time alone. Have friends, see them atleast once a week without him, and have a life without relying 100% on him to form your life. A relationship is not two halves making a whole, its two COMPLETE persons coming together to form a bond. You are not a puzzle piece and you shouldnt feel something is missing from your life that he can fill.
10. All is not lost when he leaves: You will find that all those friends you lost contact with (the true ones:)) will be there for you. You will become stronger as each day passes and make a new life for yourself. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger, and alone doesnt equal lonely:)
Chin up ladies-you are all beautiful creatures of God’s creation and deserve the very best man to make you happy:)
Hey JenM – I love your response to this topic. You have inspired me to change my ways and stop losing myself in men for which I have done all my life since I was a teen, maybe because of “daddy issues” (by the way it isn’t just Lebanese men that act this way there are some American men I have come across that do the same thing.) The 10 key points you made is something I have needed to hear all my life and I guess it is the appointed time. Thank You JenM for taking the time to write something that really made me stop and think and take notice of what I am doing to myself and that I can’t keep this up cuz life is too short and it’s passing me by and well I can’t blame men for everything as much as I’d like to. Thanks for what you wrote and I already printed it out so I can read it and remind myself of what not to do and what I should do. I hope God gives you what you need and want in life cuz you surely deserve it. I like how you say chin up ladies – keep your chin up to JenM!
Salam, Hi all! Who came up with this site ℓ☺ℓ too funny! I am also a South African married to a lebanese guy for 5 years now with 2 kids! I have to say some of the points are true but funny after u read it coz I dnt take it serious! I’m happy with my leb just the way he is even if he likes to work hard n visit his friends! I manage to deal with it , and once u stop fussing and nagging they eventually come around! The respect part I think is more to have respect for ourselves as woman, atleast that’s what mohammad taught me in all these years how important is a womans modesty n dignity! So yes there are some points there that are true but tell me any man (or woman for that matter)in this world that are perfect! I can’t say anything bad about the lebs love them all!
1) Everyone say I met a leb guy blah blah blah a
ab and specifically lebanese I suggest you stick to ur own kind of people t to talk ,, because you not easy to handle your self.ans you are REALY A Clever and Strong Womeneb man and other sad stories loooooool I just want to tell you keep your advice to your self because you never accept anyone else’s advice when you met the leb man,,, and also because you couldn’t handle the leb man ..lolu can see there’s NO action and you Do know that ,,and you just leave it because you enjoying your self @ that time and the time he decide to leave for what ever reason you want to say blah blah blah and also wara wara wara wara loooool like bullshit stories ….you are better then him or any of those ideas that women have that a man is = to a women and wara wara,,, and after he leaves you,,, U want to make stories that leb man like to play ….but people don’t know both sides of the story years with you to play only..,,,,,you must please look @ your self first if you not the problem,,, maybe he is doing that because he find out you deserve better then him …nd I know him for 3 or 5 or 6 years and after that you want to say the leb man is like this and that and other names .Hiiiiiii to who ever has a problem with a leb man
I want to ask you ???? Should that bad leb man spend all these
2) Please girls don’t Go for a leb man if you once think that
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3) What will make a women spend more then 2 years with him and yo
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5) Will Done to those who could handle the lebanese that it me
And To those lebanese or arab Girls should be the las
And to those that are non Arab and want to complaint about the ar
Hugs and kisses
Hiiiiiii to who ever has a problem with a leb man
1) Everyone say I met a leb guy blah blah blah and I know him for 3 or 5 or 6 years and after that you want to say the leb man is like this and that and other names .
I want to ask you ???? Should that bad leb man spend all these years with you to play only..,,,,,you must please look @ your self first if you not the problem,,, maybe he is doing that because he find out you deserve better then him …
2) Please girls don’t Go for a leb man if you once think that you are better then him or any of those ideas that women have that a man is = to a women and wara wara,,, and after he leaves you,,, U want to make stories that leb man like to play ….but people don’t know both sides of the story
The thing I can tell you about a leb man is he does not like bullshit stories ….
3) What will make a women spend more then 2 years with him and you can see there’s NO action and you Do know that ,,and you just leave it because you enjoying your self @ that time and the time he decide to leave for what ever reason you want to say blah blah blah and also wara wara wara wara loooool
4)Some of you girls was saying please girls don’t Go for leb man and other sad stories loooooool I just want to tell you keep your advice to your self because you never accept anyone else’s advice when you met the leb man,,, and also because you couldn’t handle the leb man ..lol
5) Will Done to those who could handle the lebanese that it means you are REALY A Clever and Strong Women
And To those lebanese or arab Girls should be the last to talk ,, because you not easy to handle your self.
And to those that are non Arab and want to complaint about the arab and specifically lebanese I suggest you stick to ur own kind of people
Hugs and kisses
I would say one of the things Lebanese man want is for their woman to be a lady always, they love femininity in a woman.
My bf is lebanese and yes there’s drama but I don’t see any of what some people are saying here. I’m not a muslim I’m actually catholic and I have a very nice relationship with his family they all seem to like me, also I always have a say in our relationship, we do fight and Lebanese man can be a little jealous which I personally think is more a protection feeling, which I think is awesome. They are caring, very passionate about everything!!!! intelligent so proud of their country and culture, and over all respectful.
Maybe I’m just some lucky girl who met the most amazing Lebanese man.
I’ve met his Lebanese friends and they all are so down to earth, respectfull and easy going guys.
Oh I also have a thing for Mediterranean – Arabic guys,after dating a few guys from different countries and cultures Arabic man are the most sexy, respectful and protective man towards women I’ve ever met!!!
SOME= Lebanese men are kind, respectful, and loving. As ALL should be!
asiya
Hi all i must say after looking online for a blog that could help me
I came acrosse this one, i must say this blog does not seem to bash lebanese men but it helped me in understanding mine. I met him three months ago, through an “app” yes people an app. We have never met, we call, skype and bbm eachother, he was very sweet very into me, wanted to know about my culture…my life etc. I think one of the first questions was “are you virgin”- i mean c’mon? I told him he has to like me for me, and i was actually divorced. (no kids) Apparently this is a big deal in lebanon? i dont know…..but he overlooked it……we have been in constant contact with each other i even introduced him to my mom on skype etc, we made plans to see each other later this year. He would tell me the sweetest things (after reading the previous experiences on this site i realized thats common with lebanese men) he calls me precious, princess…..he tells me he loves me and even talked about meeting his family when i visit and marriage. I thought to myself this man is amazing……..he’s sweet, kind…caring…he gets jealous …very sensitive….Which woman wouldnt fall for this? He sent me pics of his family…his home….of the beautiful country…etc….Everything was perfect given the situation of long distance. I was thinking to myself i feel such a connection with him (i havent said the L word to him yet) but imagine when i meet him how intense the relationship is going to be! Then All my dreams came crashing down……. while we were skyping one night my brother came into my room….being the big bro he is he decided to tease me…….He said what kind of name is Elij? (he was reffering to my lebanese guy) he jokingly said it…..my sisters (teens) also came into the room and started laughing..Just like that…the convo on skype went dead…………he logged off i tried calling back over and over…he never answered he sent a message saying “i felt that i wish them well”, i apologised i tried to explain that by no means was it disrespectful to HIM! it was a typical big brother teasing ME! My BROTHER WAS TEASING ME (not that im saying he isnt wrong he is for teasing me like that) But He wouldnt hear it……..he said goodnight and after much pleading and apology…..still nothing……A few days after i decided to msg him telling him im sorry again….and i want him in my life etc he said “we’re fine all is well stop worrying about it”…..
BUT WE WERE NOT FINE! I stopped getting the beautiful morning greetings……….he stopped msging me , skype……calls nothing. What DID I DO WRONG????? (i felt as if i committed a crime or i cheated on him or some bad wrongful act) i didnt do anything to deserve this? I’m not the type to chase after anyone…..i gave it a few days…nothing…….no msgs…..no skype………calls……. After a week he sent a msg saying “hi” that was it……….nothing after that…..I decided to try again….i called …i messaged…..he never responded, a day turned into a week….a week turned int a few weeks and i still havent heard from him……. The silence is killing me, i feel like i am being punished , i dont know if to hope …..or let go? He could have easily said it was over (if in fact it is>?) I’M CLUELESS…….i fell for him now i’m wondering if i will ever hear from him again……….. Yet again if this is something he GOT SOOOOO UPSET FOR im beginning to think what if i actually did something to hurt him or offend him? I’m so hurt by this…….can anyone please give me some insight to this? Was it really that big of a deal?
Hi there Confused one, I am currently in a relationship with a Leb guy. I met him online as well but we are from the same country. Its been 8 months almost seen we met but he does this disapearing acts on me telling me family problems came up, or too much work, or friends! the list can go on and honestly I never second guessed anything took everything at face value. He always knew when he needed me I would be there. Recently I went thou something and I really needed him to be there for me and he wasnt. BY via-text sure but not present and that crushed me into pieces and made me think to myself why?? I havent gotten the good mornings like I use too or the good nights! not even beautiful or bella… just my first name!! Unusual and I know where your are coming from. I love this person and respect everything about him, his job, his family, his background… EVERYTHING!! I just now need to know if he does the same for me which I havent felt that from him lately. Im hating on arabic ppl nor the men at all!! they are beautiful ppl just like everyone else in the world. Just need to know where I stand with him
This is such an eye opener! I think its a common thing for Lebanese men to meet women online or maybe it is just the world we live in today. I have found a hero in a Lebanese man, his words are not anything like an American man. Online I chased his friendship for a few months and just enjoyed learning about his culture. When I left my husband of many years my Lebanese friend became so much more, saving me from all my hurt and self-pity. Months later I’m now experiencing his love, protection, desires, providing and goodness from his heart all from a distance. I’m an independent, smart and strong woman but I’m no match for his words, he’s just so beautiful. If he is gone tomorrow I will still be a better woman for knowing him and will never have regrets. If all Lebanese men are similar to this then we should be helping to show the rest of the men in the world how to be more like them. Women get hurt by all nationalities so I think I would rather have my heart broke by someone who makes me feel so wonderful and special rather then by a cold hard emotionaless sh**head. This is a great discussion, thank you.
I agree with this also. They are really so sweet
Guys,…i have to list three things that a woman -need to do- to keep a leb man:
1- truthful,..honest,..blablabla are not the case,…just be a woman(strong but not rude- beautiful but not fake
2- live the feeling that a leb men pride can take them to their own death just to protect you if you need that,..appreciate our emotions
3- be carefull we love beauty.,…carefull means always be beautiful for him,..new,..fresh and he will never think of another woman!
ciao ciao!
And oh i forgot,..lebz men are big kids,..they like ( Ghenej) indirectly!