1) A smart yet very sexy women- men are picky, they wanna be able to have a challenging conversation with a girl yet they want her to resemble somewhat of a cover-girl. She also needs to be fun and exciting – always up for having a good time.
2) An open-minded yet conservative girl- she needs to be able to sleep- out on the getaway weekends to Faraya- yet they prefer her to be from a family that actually calls to ask her where she is . ( Bint 3ayleh ya3ni)
3)She needs to be confident enough to not complain about her body, yet cool enough to share a good hearty meal with him, ya3ni if he feels like having Barbar after the Sahra- she better not complain about her weight.
4)Respect, respect, respect- men hate it when we go off on them- this is the biggest threat to their masculinity, no matter how bad they eff-up , they don’t expect you to scold them for it. (Yes, we share diff ideas of respect- they think it’s us not shouting at them- we think it’s them not making us look bad by checking out our competition.)
5) Boy time. Alone. Men need their space, even if it’s sitting home playing pS3 with their best buds, when they feel this no longer becomes an option for them- they’ll be looking for away OUT.
The list goes on – but I’d prefer to hear from others too! Bisoux
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Is that so much to ask for?
Just Kidding… Some of these points are well made and true but some not so… Plus on the other side, look at the high standards Lebanese women look for in a guy!!
If by high standards you mean- $$$- then sadly your right
In point one you forgot to say that she shouldn’t be too smart for him not to feel that she can someday control him and influence his decisions
That’s so true! Always make him feel like he came up with the idea
I have to agree to some of your points, but for me personally, I hate cover girls who are all made of plastic, a lot of make-up and high maintenance makes me want to throw up!
Point 4 is true, but to be fair, a man has to give respect in order to receive it, it’s a two-way street.
Point 5: Yes, we do need our space from time to time, not necessarily on PS3
6. Its ok for him to have a relationship past but not for you.
7. His friends are always first, but you have to put him first.
8. You should laugh at all his jokes even if they are lame.
Very good points you made!! yet every man differently, but #4&5 are accurate at any case
Point number 5 is the most important of them all.
Some of these men belong to this artistic and intellectual milieu… they want a girl that bet3abillo rasso, that they can discuss with her very specific subjects and do cool activities…of course she should have a Bac+100 and be super hot and have two or three extra skills with that or something… but yet it’s better for her to stop intellectualizing everything when she asks for explanations about why she should drop her projects for the possible love between them…absurd! but true! and why would continuing what made her “bet3abillo rasso” become an obstacle between them ? someone has to make concessions? why?
- She should make less money than him
- Lady in the street. Freak in the sheets.
“BeirutBoy” you should change your name to “Caveman”
Haha very interesting. I can tell you that each boy has his own caracteristics. Point 5 for me is not important and I don’t like plastic girls. Other points can be discussed but you are not far from hitting an average lebanese guy by what you are saying. You don’t have to forget that in Lebanon there’s 6 girls to each guy (statistics) so since there is high demand (from girls) and low offer, guys can filter :p
A Lebanese guy left me bewildered and confused. Intensely, we met Friday night. Eyes locked on each other and passionate kisses. He gave me his business card and wanted to take me out the next evening. I wanted to play low key, not get all dolled up and go out again. He offered to come to his place, chill. Which I allowed to happen. I ended up staying the night and we made out from dusk until dawn, literally. I was a good girl and didn’t go all the way. He wanted to see me Sunday evening but I decided to not see him right away. Monday evening, he called me wanting to discuss with me about being in a “exclusive dating” relationship where he clearly explained he didn’t want me to date other men nor he would date other women. He expressed he wanted to see me at least 3-4 times a week minimum. I never been in a situation as such where a man has criteria for this. However, I agreed. Maybe it was time for me to date 1 guy exclusively. Something new for me but I compromised. He tells me that he is a man that is nto very verbal but a man that takes action. So he would show me how what he feels for me. He expressed to me he wanted to see me Tuesday evening, and I wanted to as well but had family (parents) obligations. We made plans to see each other Wednesday and that he wanted to accompany me to my event I was attending. I misunderstood his texts apparently and had some miscommunication about how we were meeting up. He got pissed off and cut all communication from me. He then sends me an e-mail on the evening of Cinco de Mayo after no texts, no phone calls from either of us explaining himself. Now, he REALLY likes me but cannot even see me or date me because it made him realize that if he gets into this, he might be hurting himself or me in the future. He plans to move back to Lebanon eventually etc. But he wants to remain friends? Now, I cannot get him off my mind. I cannot believe this Lebanese man for the few moments, a few days has left this impression on me. Advice anyone?
I met a lebanese man online… Never did online thing before until now.
We met and he was sweet and kind and loving. It all seemed so fake and superficial yet deep to him. He was a touchy feely type of guy who showed intense interest and expressed that we were a match for one another and how did I know. I didnt know….. Only he knew we were fit for one another.
We proceeded and continued to text. He only saw about three to four times. He burned me several times due to family issues and friend issues of people needing him to cover a situation. Every one else in his world was apparently more important to him than myself. He became a workaholic and used that as an excuse that he couldnt see me or take me out due to no money. From paying child support and rent etc… He continued his passionate texting and calling me “babygirl” all the time. he failed in actions not words. Dont know if all lebanese men are like this but I have no desire to date one again. He felt that texting and talking on the phone was a solid relationship. After about 4mos of this I let him go. Told him what I wanted in a relationship. He stated his situation was not allowing him to see me due to finances, etc. He has 2 children from a previous marriage. I can see why he was divorced. He failed with his wife and will probably fail at every relationship thereafter due to not being available in a relationship. Emphasizing too much on work and earning money. Relationships were last on his mind. He was very close to his mother and would hang up with me if she was calling him or any family member for that matter. I do not recommend dating men from other cultures and beliefs no matter how sweet they appear to be or good looking. Its a facade. I do miss him because we connected intellectually and became like friends and texted almost daily. We trusted each other with our daily news and it seemed we had a connection. But he was fine with me ending it. said he understood. And that he would not look for anyone else cuz he worked too much. Wow.
i cant ask more……………… or less
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lebanese guys , huh dont even think about, i have bf from lebanon (leaving usa) and i am myself europian , first month it was kind of ok but after official rilationship and name that i was his gf ,oh boy here we are drama. i just love him and cant leave him like nothing happend ,but trust me ppl i do sufer lot of things from his culture , long story short, lebanese guys are very very drama , and women does not have any rights in family or out side of family and they respect mothers morthen wife . so think about before you get deep into relationship like me , do you really want drama life ? !
Oh gf you are so right. Im an American and mt bf is also from Lebanon. I love him so much like you do yours. But Drama is all we seem to have. No matter how hard you try to please u can’t. But at the same time its so hard to walk away I do understand. Good luck to you.
oh gf’s out there who are thinking abt dating lebanese guys- if you not lebanese dont do it- i agree with just some if you dont want drama in your life – dont date leb guys- yes they can be sweet and kind but they are not bf material- nancy i know all about what you saying
yes they may drive nice cars etc…but wont share their money with you- all they want is free time- i dont see any other guy wanting so much time to themselves- whats the deal???? with giving them all this free time you suppose to be dating- i may as well be single- LOL
Apparently, Lebanese guys everywhere are screwing girls over.
There is positivity and negativity in everything. Thank you Allah I found a really beautiful Lebanese man. BUT he is 38 and I am 29. I think the key is to find a MAN over 30 … or so… its not about being lebanese, as there are many PEOPLE who abuse trust. Yes, lebanese culture can be quite confusing and full on… but its full on for lebanese people and most of the time it needs to be for show, to save face and respect for our elders. You will find many people liberal and free in their views on life, whether they are christian or muslim. Its about following your heart. There are many demands on what a lebanese man wants from a woman, however you dont have to commit to those demands, you are free to chose… and what isnt perfect for you just isnt your NASIB.
I think the list is right most of the time however… the key word is NAMRADE they hate it… it doesnt work and the ‘attitude’ thing of the west doesnt work on them either… just a little tip.
Peace
I can’t agree more with Mariam, enough said. International ladies take it from a native and RUN FOR YOUR LIVES
Yeah I think you just need to go on a really nice romance tours one of these days.
OMG Ladies dating Lebanese men help me plse. I have met a handsome amazing man from Lebanon working as a civil engineer in Iraq. He couldn’t be more charming and sweet, compimentary to me, and yet by the 4 or 5th message he was telling me he wanted to meet my father and one day be his son. I am from a wealthy family, very blonde, slender and he treats me as if I am some goddess from heaven, speaking of marriage on day, our babies we will have etc……….I tried to fight it off w/him, over and over. He is 26 and I am 24. He is coming out of a 5 year engagement w/a Lebanese girl, very attractive and finaly told me, he had sex w/other women while engaged to her b/c no normal healthy man could wait 5 years. I thought I was no fool, would never fall for lines like this but he is so utterly charming handsome I seem to not be able to get out from him. God he is utterly charming BUT as someone said above, calls me his Baby Girl. Also on his FB page on “Likes” the book “Lolita” is one of his favs. Now for those who don’t know, that book is about a pedo ending up marrying his young little step daughter after the wife dies. IDK but to have this as a favorite book? Flat out freaks me out, yet I let him get away w/so much b/c we are online and things can get confusing and backwards. So all he does it worship me I think b/c I am a pale blue eyed very blonde girl who has come from a neglected and wealthy family, He must see me as somewhat needy for love. I just am finding I cannot call him on what seems to be bullshit to me plus he doesn’t answer my questions abt important things on may occasions, as if he doesn’t hear me or something. He speaks to me as if I am the only girl on the planet for him and this sort of feelings and talk go straight to the empty lonely places in me. I have had bf’s and all this and been quite independent etc…..they are American but somehow this man has a hold on me I cannot shake. He says he is dangerously in love w/me and will let nothing separate us. He knows my home town and where I live now but that’s it. I am afraid he won’t let go of me and somehow will find me. Now he wants my phone no and address and I don’t want to give it to him b/c I fear him showing up one day and being crazy. Cause he say s he would die w/out me blah blah blah. I need help and advice plse Ladies, slap me silly into seeing what I cannot please
thanks in advance.
Heh entertaining blog.
It is simple enough, yet i do not expect most of you to grasp it.
The standard throughoubred and raised lebanese male specimen is a worthless scumbag. These people are raised on a straight up idiotic,chauvanistic, and egocentric culture. Massive red X on those.
What you need is the mixed culture breed, ergo lebanese men who have spent a good portion of their lives abroad AWAY FROM ARAB INFLUENCE. The result is usually an intellectual with a much wider perspective on life, the good values of lebanon such as chivalry and a sense of honor, as well as consideration. The lebanese are not considerate by nature, they are a highly selfish populace. This issue dissipates upon exposure to western civilization.
I am such a sample specimen, and i have been blown off by europeans and americans before due to being lebanese, only to turn their opinions and consequently their lives upside down and inside out with the turn of a phrase.
Do not despair ladies, there is a god, and he comes in the form of the travelled and cultured lebanese man, the homebrewed kind is simply trash.
The ego is impossible to get rid of however :>
Thank you for your comment. I am noticing w/my Lebanese bf, in spite of his civil engineering degree, (and I have an art history degree Ivy League), that no matter how much I try to discourse with him—and a variety of topics—that he just doesn’t try or attempt to expand the discussion. We seem to be stuck in “how much he desires me” or “getting married” (sooner for him than later) and “how happy he will make me”. However I can say right now if he doesn’t find me fascinating now-in the bloom of romantic love-what will this say later? Sorry for the rhetorical question here.
I ask him question after question: crickets. I ask him “may I ask you some questions?” and get: “of course my love, anything……..” I ask and no answer. This is all via FB now. His silence continues into the next day where upon he writes me greeting me with the new day and all is love and light. It has turned into such a discernable pattern that I can’t let this go.
Here’s the caveat for me: he is so genuinely kind and sweet in all other areas that I cannot “see” the disconnect as well. At first I thought maybe there’s other women, etc………But now I ‘m thinking it is the differences within our cultures. I am used to Western men talking to me about everything, and now with him, I am thinking he perhaps was raised not to value intricate conversations between men and women. I write and write of my feelings and the feedback I get from him is “My girl’ My sweet and good crazy girl”, “we will be so happy together”, “I need you now” sort of thing.
I need help so much. He is so sweet and good, the thought of hurting him is just too much for me to bear now. He genuinely seems innocent and oblivous! HELP please.
It’s really entertaining to read the above points, but really can you generalize Lebanese men or any men???? A Lebanese men is a mix of different cultures, every person is unique in their way of looking at life and their needs.
While everyone is just adding their personal point of views based on relationships, acquiantances, ……., I doubt you can ever have a true list of “What Lebanses Men Really Want” or in my case “What Lebanese Women Really Want”… :p
Cheers,