Not all Lebanese girls are looking to marry the first guy they hook up with. But guys these days truly believe that behind that cool exterior, every girl in the bar is on the hunt for a solitaire. Of course eventually we are all looking to settle, the key word here is eventually, surely that is not the first thing that comes to our minds when a good looking guy offers to buy us a drink. I say this because lately I’ve noticed that men are really flattering themselves. Some guys claim all girls have a marital hidden agenda.
Sally has dated many guys but not in a town bicycle kind of way, she has a great reputation, she’s a hard worker and a genuinely nice person. She thinks perhaps she’s too picky, I think she’s just setting good standards for herself- she knows what she wants. Most of her boyfriends have met her parents. Her parents don’t necessarily view them as boyfriends, but rather as friends of Sally, so really it’s not a big deal at all for her to bring them home.
She’s been dating Mark for a couple of months now. Her parents were throwing a Sunday get together in their Zgharta mountain house for some of their close friends and family. Sally invited Mark to come along. As soon as the words left her mouth his face began to change into all sorts of colors. He then blurted out the words that any girl dreads to hear
“Don’t you think it’s a little too soon for me to meet your parents?”
“It’s just a Sunday lunch.”
“ Ya, Sally I know, but I don’t want you or your parents to get the wrong idea”
“And what idea could that be?”
“You know, that this is serious or something”
She broke up with him right there and then. Here’s the thing, Sally really didn’t know where her relationship with Mark was going and she wasn’t even trying to find out. But the fact he bluntly said there was no future for them made her feel like she was just wasting her time. Making plans to wed a man after a couple of months is surely hasty, but knowing that a man you’re dating doesn’t even consider you in his future is a big slap to any girls ego. Maybe I’m biased but I think Mark had it coming. Do you agree?
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no I don’t agree. 2 Months is too early.
2 months? if they see each other on weekends, so they seen each other 8 times.
I don’t think seeing someone 8 times is considered anything yet… There are people I know for years and till now I discover new things about them.
Future? what future? They just started.
Coming from a guy, Sally did the right thing 100%
sally; 100% well done!!!!
No offence Ivy but no all girls want to settle down as you mentioned in your post, some want unstability ,this coming from an untraditional person like me
Yeah, I think it’s was a little much for the guy to automatically think that she was on the road to a serious relationship JUST because she invited him to an event with her family, but at the same time, if they have been dating for a few months.. what did he expect? To keep it casual forever? On the other hand, I’m the type of girl that might be a little freaked out if the situation was reversed, and if he was inviting me to meet his fam before I felt things were going somewhere, I might have backed off a little. So, I’m kinda torn.
I too think Sally did the right thing! I mean, come on!
well depending on the way she proposed it. maybe he didnt expect that she takes all her friend boyfriends to meet her parents…. plus she wasnt inviting a group of friends so it will be obvious for the parents and the family that this is the guy!! but if he loves her he will get back to her and explain his point of view unless he doesn’t want her in his future at all….
That dude is a self-bloated asshole if you ask me..
Meeting the parents is a big thing in every corner of the globe let alone Lebanon and Zgharta !! maybe the guy wrongly expressed himself but might he has been scared and too proud to express it in a straight forward manner !! I myself was born and lived in Zgharta, maybe Sally wasn’t planning the big intro of THE GUY but what about the family, yet more what about the family friends !! (aka relatives who have nothing to do aside from gossiping)…
Finally someone with a bit of sanity and not “crazy stupid love”. Two Months! If that incident happen when they have been seeing each other a year. Then a kick to the balls wouldn’t be that bad… but 2 months??? 2 months has still a fling status, not even a boyfriend. I assume that the girl is an adult and not a teenager. Only teenagers think that they got a relationship after 2 months passed.
I honestly don’t know if Sally did the right thing coz the guy might have other qualities and I just think he freaked out. However, as Ivy said, this “no no” that slipped out of his mouth bruised her ego. Yes we too have egos, albeit not as inflated as some of yours might be. Sally and Mark alone know whether what they had was a relationship coz it’s not always about time, sometimes your connection with someone that you met 2 or 3 months ago is deeper that that of someone you’ve been with for over a year.
He could not face the raw kiddeh!
It’s just a meeting with the parents…chill pal
WALAW???
I mean it´s better sometimes to end it at the beginning! If that guy was really into her, he would survive that few hours with her family. If that girl was really into him, she would understand his feelings and sure as hell keep him. Just another end of the story :/
You have a great sense of humor Ivy, i love your posts!! Please write more often 🙂
Actually, I think they both took hasty steps. Many of my friends who had to face the same ‘meet the parents’ issue had this instant flight feeling where they blurt out the same things Mark had, their counterpart doing the same thing Sally did.
I think they need to sit down and talk about the trigger reaction – if he still sticks to the this-is-not-a-serious-relationship story then she had every right to kick his ass to the curb, but if he had overreacted with something he considers something big, then they should give it a second chance. When put in such position, many people have the same reaction. Meeting parents is a big step, it might not have been such a big deal to Sally, but Mark didn’t know this. It is possible that he considers it a bigger ‘thing’ than she does.