My former colleague Diana met her boyfriend Hadi on the street. No really, she did. He then chased her down in his car and begged her for her number. Her first impulse was to run away from this stalker but she took one look at his face and was smitten. She stopped at the side of the road and they exchanged numbers. One date led to another and before you know it they’ve been dating for 6 months. They have no mutual friends, both lived on different sides of the country, and although she felt it was right when they were together- something was seriously off.
Hadi was only available during the day. Come afternoon, his cell turns off; he never even calls her for an evening chat. He says it’s because he lives with his parents and doesn’t have much privacy. Did I mention he’s 30! Each time she tried to question him, he managed to charm his way out. Hadi clearly had a secret.
He did indeed. My friend Lara and I were walking about in ABC Ashrafieh last month when we spotted Hadi with a lady, pushing around a baby in a stroller. We couldn’t believe our eyes. I bb’ed Diana, she tried calling him but he didn’t pick up. Hadi was married!
She confronted him with the news, and he confessed. But he also said that they’re on the “verge” of divorce and are trying to keep things civil for the baby’s sake. Worst part of it all, Diana bought into it again. She says she “loves” him and is willing to stick it out. He even convinced her to stop seeing us since we’re just “jealous” of what they have.
Little birdie told me this morning that Diana’s been shopping around for a Chanel-esque white suit for her Katb IKtab. Hadi may not be getting divorced but that didn’t stop him from making an honest woman out of Diana. Diana doesn’t know this, yet but one day Hadi will let yet another woman pass that intersection…
joseph says
What is Katb IKtab? Is that only a Muslim tradition?
SeifAndBeirut says
Muslim and Druze to Kateb lKtab – the religious rite of marriage.
Life with Subtitles says
What ever makes people happy.. if she’ll be happy sharing her husband (even if she’s under the impression she will “eventually” be his only one), let it be. Right ?
Mariam says
That’s so sad. I mean sure its a choice- but he tricked her into it.. she believes she’s in love… All cheating men use the same lines- I’m divorcing, being civil blah blah.
SeifAndBeirut says
Hmmm….I have one question for your friend. If Hadi was having so much problems with his wife, why the hell did he have a child with her? This story is far to common. What will happen next is Hadi can’t leave his child with his wife alone, kif bye2bal? Barke badda tetzawaj his ex, tirba bento 3end gharib? Then when the child is older she is going to randomly suffer from “separation anxiety” and so on and so on. So to your friend, mabrouk salaf I guess – as was stated above, whatever makes her happy. 3i2bel el telteh 😉
Dory says
i would say that if he cheated on his wife with her, he is not probably going to cheat on her … he is FOR SURE going to cheat on her with another one maybe also marrying her or whatever gonna make him happy, just she have to think about it, if she have no problem sharing him with his 1st wife… she have to accept also sharing him with his 3rd and 4th wife (they’re coming … you just have to wait a bit )
anyway no one wish bad things to happen … just the person who isn’t inside the relationship sees things differently… that is why we have friends to see things we don’t see… and especially to tell us about them !!! 😀
i believe that you did the right thing … and if she believed what he said about you she is not worth caring about her (that is my personal opinion)
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KaLie says
I honestly find it hard to be living in Lebanon and not having ANY friends in common ! As absurd as it may seem, but I am not surprised with Diana’s “naiveté” . I guess she’s just a simple gal whose never been so charmed by such a jerk, and felt into it.. or should I say into him :p
This is Trinidad says
Gotta agree with Life With Subtitles here. If she is ok with being his second wife, then good for her! I know I sure as hell wouldn’t settle for that!