1) Don’t turn into a vulgar baboon ( wazwaz-style) with your bros when we’re around. We get that that’s how you bond, but we ‘d much rather you kept it classy.
2) Even if you don’t like hearing about the girl that copied our outfit or how our friend is being two-faced, pretend like you do. We are venting! Be supportive, nod, interact and give advice, don’t doz off into open space, we know when you’re not listening!
3) If your friend- is being a ass, do something about it. It’s not part of our plans to take over your life or whip you, he just really crossed the line and you need to let him know it’s not cool.
4) Don’t get jealous and especially possessive, we’re not 6 and you’re not our fathers, we date you. not report to you.
5) Don’t compare us to your ex-girlfriends. As of now, we are the sexiest ones in your life.
6) No, we are not out to get married- but the option should be there. The last thing we want, is to spend 3 years with you only to find out on the fourth that you’re not ready to commit- you can’t have it all. If you don’t see us in your future, you’re probably not gonna get to see us right now either.
7) Don’t cheat, it just makes you a liar and a coward. Save your excuses, you’re either a man or you’re not.
We want many many things, these are just the basics. Thoughts? Bisoux
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wooow that’s crazy
1- just like there’s girl talk and gossip, guys have their way of bonding; nature beats nurture: we can’t change it
3- our best friends in life are very meaningful to us. we love them too, but differently
4- jealousy is proportional to how much we care for you.. and it’s also manifesting that your life is important to me..
jealously can be handled in an appropriate way but I think more often than not it isnt’ and becomes controlling and something very bad. fadi…your #4 item is way off base. It doesn’t mean that her life is important to us as much as it means that we want control. Not good.
I’m not sure Fadi’s #4 is WAY off base… there’s some truth to it – this girl makes a good point that we need to control it though. We don’t like psychos either, but if a girl is just as happy if I’m talking to her or to some other girl, then I’m going to question if she really wants me there.
Does anyone know if there is a man version of Ivy? There should be.
Don’t you think it’s soo Lebanese of us to justify expressing our care with some jealousy. Come on Guys, I’m referring to the ” why were you talking to him?” scenario guys pull on girls. I don’t need to know a guy likes me like THAT, we can be open-minded confident couples without the drama.
but Smh- I would so be willing to take on a guy version of me.
Bisoux
THANK YOU!!! it’s what all women want…mish bas lebanese…keep em coming 🙂
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Haha love this!!
Isn’t it ironic that most of the all the issues raised by Ivy here about what women want, they all seem to refer back to one particular issue and that is above all else they want freedom.
Freedom to chose, freedom to live life, freedom to make decisions, freedom to have a partner that respects them for who they are and what they want.
I can understand this considering that Lebanese culture is such a male dominated culture. Lebanese women seem to crave freedom, yet still wish to have the option of tradition, i.e marriage.
Yet my question is can you have both? Tradition and freedom.
Ivy says we don’t want to get married but the option should be there. People change, having recently experienced this myself the person you think you know in a tear or five may change without you seeing it. Therefore they may not see marriage now but they may in five years and vice versa.
My greater concern here is I think both men and women are asking and seeking the wrong things. Instead of a list of the five things they want, how about writing a less selfish list of the five things they are willing to give. 🙂
Wonderful post, Ivy. Love the humor, love the ‘straight-to-the-point’-ness (that should be a word).
Here are some of the points we had come up with in one of our posts, http://bit.ly/bghUW6
Have a crazy weekend!
@Yakhne Batata. Hey, how are ya? I got a question, in general, are Lebanese women open to inter-racial relationships? Hence, people from let’s say Japan can approach and talk to them? Language is not an issue, confidence is not an issue, are Lebanese women nice to foreign guys in general.
I like Lebanese women. Although I’m not sure if their open to inter-racial relationships. I’m not Lebanese, I’m not going to say where I’m from cuz it’s easy to pinpoint excuses. Anyways I think Lebanese women are beautiful inside and out.
“…. Clearly you don’t know our women!”, King Leonidas
I clearly deduce from the chosen images of the strong female and the blog name that the writer is either a feminist or is pro-feminist in her scope. She emphasized words like “freedom” and “we” to express a set of assumptions about what all women desire according to what she thinks they want. However, Suzanne Venker would refute many claims on this blog, as well as feminists like Betty Friedman and Eve Dessler. So, this writer’s “points” lack rigor.
I also see this writer’s negative emphasis of the word “boys”. Can the writer be any more emasculating in her tone? Maybe us men should gather around a laptop and respond to this blog with the title “What men really want- GIRLS take notes”. Only God can foresee the true reactions from such a post. So, I think this writer should check her latent anger with a licensed therapist.
My dear fellas, take what she wrote….with a grain of salt off your shoulders.