We all have that one friend in that sort of relationship- she wants to take it to the next step he doesn’t. They’ve been together for years,of course he won’t just leave her , he simply doesn’t have the balls to because the fact is he DOES like her but he also likes himself more and dealing with the consequences of a break up or living in the fear that one day he may realize he did a big mistake- is just too risky for him.
So what does he do? He drags it on. He doesn’t promise her anything- but he does throw her some false hope every now and then and she’s more than willing to take it and run with it.
I dunno if it’s the masochist inside her or the optimist, but she just won’t leave him, she will threaten to leave him, a lot, but he knows she’s bluffing- she’s done it way too many times and she always comes back to him, unconditionally. She figures, well he’s been with me for years- it’s a good sign.
So what do you think? Will her persistence pay- off or is she beating a dead horse? Do share… Bisoux
shana says
she’ll soon realize he’s not worth it..
smh says
All men show they care in different ways… but does he show false hope, or does she misinterpret signs?
What do you define as the payoff? A ring? then no… get out now and shop in another jewelry store…
Design Voyeur says
She has to place a deadline for herself on how long she is willing to wait.
It’s difficult being in her situation… I don’t want to be in her shoes for sure. She has to seriously think things out and say “If he still does not want to commit by (June?) then I am walking out”
Meanwhile she should prepare herself for the worst, and hope for the best.
What do you think?
Frenchy says
I was in that situation. Dated him for 14 months. He was not ready to be in a relationship because he just came out of a divorce. He wanted to play the field but then he met me. I am exactly what he wants in a woman and truly adores me. I was patient for 14 months and then one day after he told me that he wasn’t sure he could be in an exclusive relationship anymore but he cared so much about me and didn’t want to lose me.(he was pretty much asking me permission to see other women). I just said no thank you and left him. We left in good terms at first. I’m his best friend. He kept on texting me every day telling me he thought about me. I make him laugh a lot It was too hard for me so I told him if he didn’t want a relationship with me I didn’t want to be friends anymore and he had to stop contacting me. He got mad that I didn’t want to stay friends. But I didn’t change my mind and wish him good luck with his women. We have had no contact for 8 days. He thought he owned me. I know he thinks I will contact him but I won’t. I was wondering how Lebanese men react to being dumped. What should I expect ? Ii do want him back but only if he is ready to be just with me. m French by the way and he loved that fact. he thought I was the total package and took such great care of him. I hope he misses me.