So, I have a boyfriend. I love him and he loves me back. Things have been smooth.
But there’s this ex-girlfriend of his,that he’s been so keen on preserving as a friend. And god knows I have my shares of exes. So I’ve been trying to keep an open mind. Until last night. She pushed my buttons. And now I have to stand my ground and rightfully proclaim what’s mine.
Before I get into it, they broke up because she suffocated him. She wanted to be with him every second of the way, he couldn’t even play poker with the boys anymore. He loved her but- as he says- not enough to give it all up. Although- I can’t imagine what would be attractive about a man who would actually give it all up?
So we see her occasionally, and I’ve been so casual, kept an open mind, and never let paranoia get the best of me. This is how I see it: If he wants her- he would be with her. Khalas- no drama.
But she has this habit of snapping portrait shots of herself and mostly men- and yes my man seems to be her favorite choice. So she grabs him, plants the biggest wettest smooch on his face and snaps a pic of it. I let it go.
But the next day she uploads it onto Facebook and makes it her profile picture and tags my man! Before you know it- all her friends are commenting, “love you guys”, “ sooo cute”, “ jamelkon” and it goes on.
And she starts casually thanking everyone, “Thanks girls, love you all.” Bitch
Of course my man untags himself and calls me instantly to explain. I kept it under control but explained to him that she pushed it. He agrees but hopes I’ll just let the incident pass. I feel like putting her in a headlock 🙂
So what do you suggest I do, shall I let the desperate girl have her moment, or shall I show her who’s the new Sheriff in town? Bisoux
krikorian says
just give me her name and let me kick her A** 😀 no one messes with Ivy alright hahah
Fadi says
At this point I’d say it’s his responsibility to make sure she knows her boundaries. Anyway relax, while she has a fantasy relationship with your boyfriend, you actually have the real thing, and as long as he’s got nothing to hide, you guys are fine. The hell with what she does on Facebook
PS: From the looks of it, she looks like a shallow mindless barbie (snapping facebook pictures for a living and whatnot). Feeling threatened by that kinda girl is just wrong.
Sleepless in Beirut says
She’s pathetic and delusional, we all know one. She is obviously still hopeful that the two of them will elope some day but if one of you has enough to pity to spare her the pain in the long run, you should let her know that that day will never come.
But for now, it looks like she’s trying to provoke you so that drama starts between you and your man, so that he would run back to her to bitch about you and she could console him with “I still love you and she’s not worth it”. I say, leave her to her little games, you’re above that and enjoy watching what other little tactics she comes up with next.
Chantal says
C’est le moment ou TU dois pisser sur ton territoire 😉
indigoCat says
Put this image as your profile picture, then tag her on the sign 😉
Subtle yet strong signal. Let’s hope she gives up.
Maya says
I know how annoying it must be for you to go through this, but the more you ignore her, the faster she’ll stop her cheap tricks. Don’t let her become a ‘taboo’ or recurrent topic between you and him, it will give her way more importance than she deserves but do let him know that this bothers you, he should put her a limit if he really cares for you.
BeirutBoy says
I get what ur upset. It would piss me off too.
But hey…ur the one he’s kissin good night… =P
annie says
Hehehe most of the girls are bitchy aslan ,that’s why they copy paste each other especially in Leb.
bigsip says
Ivy!! You’re the coolest blogger I know and tolerating her for so long has spared you all the drama that she is trying to provoke. Just like Sleepless in Beirut said, she wants him running back to her bitching about you. Please keep us posted!! bisous
& read my post about burgers… tell me what you think: http://bigsip.wordpress.com/2011/01/11/on-the-best-burger-in-beirut-city/
Ali Seif says
I have to agree with Fadi on this… It’s his duty to tell his “ex” to take a breather. When I started dating my current GF, my older one still played a “large role” in my life… After a while I ralized the longer she’s around, the harder it will be to progress with my current GF. So I told her to take it easy, and very casually started to cut the relationship off… For good.
Then again, my ex never posted pics on FB of her kiss on my cheeks after we broke up.
So I have an idea… If he doesn’t agree to slowly cut her off (which is fishy, no guy likes his ex hanging around his current gf), take matters into your own hands. Even if that means a headlock haha. Funny post, love your entries!
Delirious says
kill her. we won’t tell!
marriamb says
Be smart about it. She is obviously trying to aggravate you with the hope that you will start acting more possessive and hence a tad (or maybe more) suffocating.
How you should retaliate however, is by doing stuff he loves so that he falls further in love with you which in turn will push his sweet memories of her farther down the drain. And when she is around you guys, be all over him so as to not give her a chance to get her hands on him or at least to painfully remind her that YOU are with him while still pretending to like her :p
annie says
Hehehe obviously girls in Lebanon have very low confidence ,especially that I saw an article very similar to this one in another blogger’s blog diary ,obviously girls in Leb are jealous of each other ,that’s why they call them gold diggers abroad!!!!!
Mariam says
I think if she sticks around too long and he doesn’t make it his job to let her know her boundaries.. and depending on how long this has been happening for.. you’ll have to ditch him.
Otherwise, I wish you the best of luck.
Danielle says
That is just too much! Tell her to back the f up! Hate girls like that..He ain’t yours anymore hunny,, he’s MINE! 😀
Lindsay says
This happened with my boyfriend and his ex gf. He tried so hard to keep her as a friend even though it was obvious (to me at least) that she still wanted him. Eventually she got crazy enough that even he couldn’t deny it anymore and he cut her off for good. Some people can be friends after they break up, some can’t. It seems she can’t and your bf will realize this soon enough.
Shou Hayda says
Sharmouta. My friend is going through the same thing. I don’t even know the girl and I want to smack her silly.
“MA MAN, NOT YOURS HOE!” 🙂