He was my best friend- we met in college and hit it off right away. We started so much shit together and always found ourselves in A LOT of trouble. We once picked a fight with a group of guys at a Subway and almost got our butts kicked- he bitched slapped one of them and we ran for it.
I was in a long term relationship and he had many flings and we’d always laugh about the clingy ones. Our friends were convinced we were hiding something- we weren’t. Sure he was possessive and intimated guys that would hit on me but it was just his way of being my friend.
We had a pact that no matter what happens we’d remain the closest of friends. Cheesy but necessary when you’re about to move continents. After months of drunken Skype calls I stopped hearing from him. So I called, left voicemails and dozens of emails. It was borderline stalking. He seemed to have disappeared off the face of the earth, only he was still active on Facebook.
Then one afternoon I received a message notification, it was him, he was asking me to stop trying to contact him.It went a little something like this:
“I’m deleting you from my facebook to cut communication with you (yady yady yada.) My friendship with you is disrupting affect my current relationship (blah blah blah.) Also, your posts on my wall have been intrusive and disrespectful.( it was just a video of a monkey scratching his privates, lighten up buddy) As you know I have met someone very special, who I am in love with and who I want to keep in my life. This will be the last communication between us.” ( Good luck , she seems supportive)
And that was it. Six years of a friendship over,just like that.. At first I was furious with him for being such a pushover, I vowed never to speak to him again, then I blamed his girl and felt sorry for him for being with such a control freak. Four years later, I just miss my best buddy. I think it’s time to crack open that bottle of wine. Bisoux
This means he was never a good friend because no man or girl should come between friendships. Period.
I’m not gna diss your friend cause I respect what you used to have when you guys were friends…but damn that’s harsh!
Hope you find another friend who’ll stick around no matter what… mwa
This goes to show just how much men are willing to sacrifice for a steady supply of “getting some”. I’m not saying he did the right thing, it kinda makes him look like a pushover, but when a man gets addicted to someone, no matter how crazy her reasoning is, his survival instincts will tell him to bend over backwards to please her, because “without her he’s nothing”..
Cheer up buddy, and pour me a glass
Why men and women can’t be friends
http://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA
the story does not make sense. smthg is missing?
Happened to me with more than one friend (men and women)…
Maybe he liked you and then when he got serious with a girl- he gave up on the idea of you and moved on? which then lead to dropping you as a friend. Does he have any other “girl” friends to your knowledge?
I know that video of the monkeyyyyy the one where he smells his hand and faints
Good one Ivy ;p
AW! that sucks! I’ve been in a sorta similar situation too, I still blame the significant others. I don’t understand how they let them change who they are. :/
we always blame the other girl and most of the time she doesn’t know that we exist (aka the best friend), 2 weeks ago a very good friend of mine removed me from facebook just when he got engaged! men will always be men and childlish
some are just not meant to stay in our lives… been there with other friends i just move on and never look back…
the story of a couple that was never ment to be. had he been a real “friend”, neither he nor his girlfriend would have felt the need to cut you off. and i BET it was she who wrote that message to you.
when i first started reading this I went: “….story of my life”
Is it possible that he may have had feelings for you? as in more than a best friend?
I always dread the moment when my “best friend” finally introduces me to his new “love” or future wifey…and she realizes that he’s closer to me than her…so she forces him to cut me off. Try turning it around though….if you had a boyfriend do you think your relationship will stay exactly the same with your best guy friend?
@styelcafebeirut could be right, because something very similar happened with me. It turned out to be he had developed feelings and was blaming me for not sharing the same. His way of cutting me off was extremely bad..this message he sent you wasuch better. I was called names and insulted bcz I ddnt love him back his way. (could ne his way of making sure I never contact him again). Throw this “friend” behind and move on.
I second Rana! ‘She’ probably got hold of his account/s and decided to take matters into her own hands.