My good friend Sara is what some, or in this case, many, would view as promiscuous. As her friends, we’ve just learned to put our moral judgments aside and consider her outgoing. On the contrary, we respect her, because she refuses to hide her love for men, many men.
It’s not like Sara dresses like a street walker and throws herself on men, come to think about it, compared to many well-respected women in Beirut, she looks like a nun, I kid you not.
It just happens that if Sara happens to like a guy, she will probably take him home right away.
If you ask Sara she’ll tell you she doesn’t want to pretend to be someone she’s not, she is who she is, does what she wants to do, some men can handle it, some freak out and run for the hills.
Did she develop a reputation? Sure she did. We’re in Lebanon; a stray cat would develop a reputation. We walk into clubs and we’ll have a random flock of girls, simultaneously twist their necks back to stare and bluntly point her out as they ferociously start whispering. If you look a little closer at the table, you may notice that it may be because Sara once dated a couple of their boyfriends.
One of the most common reactions people about her: “But she has to conform to society, she doesn’t live alone, she should respect her surroundings, or move to Europe or something.”
We’ve all had our share of talks with her at some point, advising her to tone it down, but the fact of the matter is, we all somehow envy her, for refusing to put on the act that everyone wants her to put on, she’s comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t need to pretend. Meanwhile, many girls hold a close record to Sara’s when it comes to men, but they’ll take that with them to the grave.
On numerous occasions we’ve even found ourselves on the front lines of having to defend her right to make her choices as she pleases. She doesn’t feel that sexual freedom should be limited to an exclusive committed relationship. Yet in Lebanon, if a girl can no longer claim (or prove) that she’s saving her virginity for marriage, she’ll justify her history by claiming it was only this “one” guy and they’re in love. The mere idea that a girl has to justify anything to begin with is proof of the deep levels of hypocrisy and prejudice entrenched in our culture’s obsession with taboos, but the fact that a girl will lie to comfort these moral judgments, makes her an enabler and at times, an enthusiast to this BS. Thoughts? Bisoux
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