Why do people date? Some believe it’s because every one of us is on a quest for Mr./Mrs. Right. I don’t necessarily agree. The “right” person could be there, you may just not be ready for them. Take this example: Lets say you had $ 50,000 to buy a car. You can either choose to go for the classy yet reserved kinda car lets say, a Volvo, or get yourself a sexy red convertible. You chose the convertible because although you know the Volvo is a safe bet, the convertible is risky and it provides you with the element of fun.
Dating is fun. It’s fun to feel the excitement before stepping into the shower, it’s fun to pick the outfit, it’s fun to wine and dine with someone new ( and cute), it’s fun to feel the butterflies in your stomach when your hands touch and it’s fun to hear yourself talk about yourself to someone new.
Dating stops being fun when a) you’re on a mission to find Mr. Right and b) when your hunting for sex.
Then it starts feeling too forced, people sense the urgency in your voice and smell the desperation in your actions.
Of course many of us date to find that special someone, all I’m saying is that shouldn’t be what drives us. I’m a firm believer in this cliche notion of love happening when you least expect it to.
I think I’m in Love.
I discovered a new drink this weekend- and it’s really something! For those of you who don’t like spicy drinks this one is definitely not for you.
Ruby Red- the name reminds me of Dorothy's red shiny shoes in the Wizard Of Oz. Dragonfly in Gemmayzeh makes it with real red chili peppers!
TSC Signature in Downtown makes undeniably one of the best Lebanonized chicken curries Beirut has to offer with some fluffly Basmati rice. You can grab it for a quick lunch break- just make sure you don't have a meeting right after :)
I like to taste more than I like to cook. But this weekend I decided to try my hand at baking. I made this amateur chocolate cake made with cocoa powder. Betty Crocker ain't got nothin on me!
No cake is complete without the sweetest icing on top and Who knew icing could be so easy to make? All you need is vanilla extract, lots of sugar and some butter et voila! Bisoux
Frenemies. The friends you wish you didn’t have but somehow they always manage to find their way into your life. You get so used to this sort of arrangement that you start creepily enjoying it and before you know it, they have managed to make you just like them- TWO FACED.
I used to cringe at the thought of a person being two-faced, thinking I was much better than to get involved with any of that tasteless crap. Yet I now find myself having frequent coffees with my frenemy, making backhanded low-blows her way while trying to dodge the ones she sends my way.All the while asking myself why why why?
And mind you, this is a talent acquired with time. From close observation I know that many people here and elsewhere function this way. It’s passive aggressiveness at it’s best and it’s contagious. It’s the over-enthusiastic “HIIIII” that you hear yourself blurt out when you meet the frenemy and it’s the ” **shrug** why do I even bother with her?” bitching session when she leaves.
Guys are baffled by this talent us girls have. They just don’t understand why “girls” are ” like this.” But really? Why? Why can’t we just rid ourselves of the people that annoy us and simply surround ourselves with real quality? Have we just surrendered to what’s available or do we all just enjoy being nasty? Or, are we afraid of removing the FR in Frenemy and having enemies? Thoughts? Bisoux
I can’t but complain to Y’all about this… Have you ever tried to pull-out cash from an ATM Machine in Lebanon only to have the next person in line, stand right by your side or right behind you, obnoxiously peering in to your screen while you’re sorting out your finances!? You try to convince yourself at first that this person is either lost or confused and probably just double-checking to see whether this ATM is in fact an ATM.
But when you start feeling their breath on your shoulder you realize that this person plans on making you hurry so that they can use the machine sooner.
I turn around and usually glare at the person, you know the “ get the hell away from me” look, but they just don’t freakin get it. They look at you with either empty eyes or shoot you an annoyed look stopping just short of telling you “KHALSEENA!”
Yesterday I just couldn’t take it anymore and yelled at the man standing side-by-side to me. I asked him if he wanted to “ insert my pin” since he was so set on sharing this experience with me. He just mumbled something weird and didn’t move.
Have you ever walked into a pharmacy hoping to have a private conversation with the pharmacist about a medical condition only to suddenly find the next customer suddenly appear next to you bluntly listening to your conversation? Better yet, when that person gets impatient he/she starts moving even closer until they decide to shove their prescription between you and the pharmacist.
Why are these incidents so frequent in Lebanon- why do a lot of people try to cut you off in line, why can’t we wait for conversations to be over before we jump in? Which brings me to the question: why is the concept of personal space so foreign? Or do we simply just not care? Bisoux
There’s nothing like walking into one of the old-timers such as Jardin De Chine in Jal El Dib and getting that ( now-rare) service that used to make Lebanon so unique; you know, the one where the waiter knows exactly what you want just by looking at your facial expressions, the one where the manager and waiter bid you farewell at the door and genuinely thank you for choosing them. The one where you feel like a cherished customer rather than just another number taking up some space.
Jardin De Chine, has managed, with its loyal group of customers to stand-tall amongst the competition, although if you really come to think of it, there’s not much competition especially at this price range. When you first walk into this grand place with its glass floors overlooking a Chinese-looking pond and its fancy water fountains, you would take it for a pretty-pricey establishment. But once you take a look at the extensive menu you realize that you can pay just the same sitting at the food court in Spinneys. And the best thing about it- the food is authentically Chinese. None of that Lebanonized Chinese food ( I’m going to refrain from naming places), it’s the real deal.
The spring rolls had just the right temperature and crispness one would anticipate, I would only recommend more veggies inside. The strong taste of the hot and sour soup was a good complement.
The beef with mushrooms in black bean sauce was absolutely scrumptious . Enough said.
For me, no Chinese meal is complete without noodles. Better yet, no noodles are complete without the right amount of stir-fried veggies topped with some plump salmon-colored shrimps. This dish a is Must-Have. Bisoux
Although I'm not usually a fan, Mrs. Witherspoon looks elegant in that amazing Jason Wu dress matched up with black Louboutins (*sigh*), she doesn't usually strike me as the super-stylish type but this look is def working for her.
Leighton Meester from Gossip Girl glows in a powder blue cocktail dress by our very own Elie Saab. Her clutch and bag are by Jimmy Choo.
Always one to love the shimmers, JLo wears a minidress from one my favorite homegrown designers; Zuhair Murad and also matches them with a pair of Jimmy Choo's.
Although I'm not usually a fan of this slouchy Twilight star Kristen Stewart actually looks hot in this super-sexy Valentino minidress. I'm really feeling the black lace this season. She matches her outfit with those black pumps by Brian Atwood.
I don't think anyone can love a Hervè Leger bandage dress more than me. But this is a very rare example of how even a Leger can look raunchy. Christina Aguilera totally ruins this otherwise delicious Hervè Leger Monica Novelty peach bandage dress with her trashy extensions, vulgar makeup and horrendous cleavage. TAKE IT OFF you ruining it for us!
Eva Mendes looks princess-like in this trademark-pink chiffon gown by Christian Dior. I don't usually like beads ( meaning "chak" in Lebanese fashion lingo) but the gold leafs give this gown the perfect touch.
I saved the best for last. I am just about ready to kill for this outfit. Keira Knightley looks picture-perfect decked head-to-toe in Chanel. The bag, the blazer, the heels the dress, I'm gonna cry in envy! Bisoux!
“SOME Lebanese men have a wandering eye.” That’s a common conception.
They’re always looking for the next best thing. They can have the hottest girl in town and still check out every other girl they come across. Heck, they may even cheat on their gorgeous girlfriends with the most average-looking chick. Why? Because they can. Because she was willing- and he’ll take whatever he can get. How many guys do you know who have walked away from an easy lay? Not many eh?
They’re all about getting as much as they can without getting caught. Maybe it’s an ego thing. Maybe mamma shouldn’t have pridefully called him a heart breaker since he was 4.
It sux the most when they check you out even when they’re with their girlfriends, and they do that a lot here. What’s worse is when the girlfriend begins giving you the death look. It’s like ” shou? now It’s my fault I needed to pass by your table to get to the washroom? Believe me, the last thing I wanted to do is steal your cheating baboon…”
My post titled “Your boyfriend may be hitting on me” from back in February also discusses what happens when that baboon happens to be your friend’s boyfriend.
So, who do we blame for our men’s obvious indiscretions, is it the girlfriends that turn a blind eye to this sort of behavior, testosterone, or the tramps that are willing to sleep with men already in relationships? You tell me. Bisoux
Update: After much feedback- I would like to stress that the author’s observations do not represent the majority of Lebanese men- there exists a group of honest, loyal, conscientious, decent,genuine men in this country that have eyes only for the beautiful women in their lives. They are so great, we’d like to have their babies.
- H&M Camel Coat
- MARC JACOBS ‘The Large Single’ Shoulder Bag $625 , also loving the pink one
River Island bare-all leggings
We all love us some designer gear- but that can burn some major holes in our wallets. That’s why you gotta mix’n'match. All it takes is the right kinda boots or handbag to make that H&M coat and River Island leggings look like a million dollars. Bisoux