Profile: She was the first to get a tattoo at 14. Yes, a dolphin on her shoulder. The first to have a boyfriend at 15. The first to sleep with a much older boyfriend at 17. The first to experiment with drugs. And Now.. she has suddenly become the holy-ready-to-marry-husband-from- VERY- good- family. ukhhh
She bought herself a new pair of implants- which she vehemently denies- although she was as flat as a board. She lives at Pace e Luce’s- and she looks like Najwa Karam about to take the stage every time she leaves home.
She is Youmna- a girl who has abandoned her identity because she is now blinded by the notion of marriage. Marriage Marriage Marriage. Its all she thinks about, it doesn’t matter with whom she does it, as long as he has a seasonal table at SkyBar and he’s Ok with her splashing out $3k on the latest Louis Vuitton.
The hypocrisy: she was the pioneer of dancing on bars- milking bar owners for free drinks making them believe it will all pay off (sometimes it did)- and taking boys home after a wild night out
Now she has the nerve to ask my friend not to dance on a chair- as ” khalas we’re too old for this, mich helwee.” Because you see, she decides when it’s time and when it’s enough. Meanwhile this poor girl puts us all to shame with her goody-two shoes record.
Youmna is on a mission. Word on the street is she has already locked her target- Lebanese- Saudi young businessman and is planning her engagment party. He hasn’t even proposed yet.
Her Mission: How is Youmna preparing for her new role as future trophy wife? Simple really: SHE HAS STITCHED-UP HER HYMEN. At one of Lebanon’s most renowned plastic surgeons.
And we will all watch Youmna on her wedding day- talk about how she’s ” scared” of whats to come later that night-all while her mom squeals with joy. And you see on her wedding night- virgin Youmna will bleed. Bisoux
Ivy, very well-written piece on a Lebanese archetype for whom I can only ever manage a single word: Ikh.
I don’t know what to say in this case, other than,,how can she live with herself? When will Lebanese society cease to be a breeding ground for hypocrisy. Should I even feel bad for her intended target, the Saudi Businessman? I think not, he probably knows what he is getting himself into..So much for starting a relationship on a solid foundation of trust. Disgusting..really.
Nicely written Ivy
It’s very fucked up how women feel they need to stitch themselves up to be loved.
I can only quote: “Disgusting..really”
Very well written…straight to the point.
That’s why I try to put a word out for all my fellow “men out there” SELECT WISELY
Everywhere in the world teenagers grow up and move on.
You want her teenage fuck ups to stigmatize her all her life?
I don’t see what the entire fuss is about. I also sense more than a hint of resentment here.
So she was wild in her youth and then sobered up, that makes her like many other typical girls out there.
She’s a pragmatist, playing along with the society she’s part of. She’s giving them what they think is important. She’s not going to stay young forever and she decided to marry a well off guy who will make her comfortable. It’s her choice and it’s not your business to judge her.
One thing’s for sure, she’s smarter than anonymous bloggers who whine about other people while perhaps secretly wishing they can be more like them.
Wow I seem to have hit a sensitive cord there with you Mustapha didn’t I?.
Haters gonna hate
Bisoux
p.s. why you reading my whining and commenting on it if it bothers you so much? Something to think about perhaps…
well, Mustapha, at least she’s writing her own posts, and NOT copying other people’s blogs & articles and calling it “a blog”
@ Mostapha: “I don’t see what the entire fuss is about.”
come on … I bet you won’t be too happy to know that your (pragmatic) wife to be was stitched up without you knowing about it.. that’s pretty deceitful man.
Don’t justify and feed in to this Lebanese hypocrisy. . it’s too bad you’re being so sensitive about it to the extent that you can’t see or handle the blunt truth tackled by Ivy without blurting hurtful comments.
Ivy- great article, very well written, keep it up girl!!
um, the primary issue here is NOT that she’s ‘deceiving’ her fiance (deception is bad, but insisting on marrying a virgin is so much worse!), it’s that she feels compelled & comfortable doing such a thing at all, despite having been so ‘liberated’ before.
‘doing such a thing’ = hymenoplasty, in case that wasn’t clear
wow
that is quite hard-core to the point, compared to the superficial habillage you put to your writings usually. for a sec i thought somebody hacked your account.
as mustafa says, this text shows much resentment in you. you’re obviously hateful of youmna. and this is why this text is a great read for many probably, it is passionate so it triggers passionate responses from those who read it. “la preuve”: mustafa’s much reactionnary answer (his mask fell off)… and mine.
So now she’s jealous of some stitched-up (this is so demeaning) girl? Pffff…. ridiculous!
lol
I too have found some resentment, but to me, it has more to do with the fact that said girl is now preaching about ladylike behavior.
I like this post, Ivy. And Mustapha, you disapointed me
after many years of reading, mustapha disappointed me too
Stitching up your hymen is a safe bet. No one will know, but you know–you’re lying to yourself. But whatever makes you happy.
I wouldn’t judge Youmna, she’s a victim. And not the only one.
In this story, Youmna is not the villain. It is men in this society and the silly value they put on virginity.
Youmna is obviously the fun loving type and yet her experience taught her that she can only get married to a “decent” man if she plays along. In my book, that’s clever and rational. If he chooses to be ignorant, it’s not her job to show him the light.
And yet our Carrie Bradshaw wannabe completely lets the guy off the hook and dumps a weird amount of anger at Youmna.
Don’t worry ivy, I won’t bother you any more. I just unsubscribed from your feed.
thank you for clarifying, mustapha. i thought from your previous comment that you were giving the guy a pass, which was really disappointing esp coming from you!
I will not justify your new allegations with a proper response, my readers deserve better than to be subjected to such pettiness coming from someone I once thought of as an
“experienced blogger” all I can say is GOOD RIDDANCE!
bisous xoxo
Are we gonna start seeing chairs fly out the window here ?
For my money, both Ivy and Mustafa have a point. Youmna is a hypocrite for “stitching up” her past, and men are just as bad for expecting their women to be “mech beyis temma ella emma”. It’s this dynamic that has created the reality we live in, where women could feel pressured to do that kinda stuff, and as disgusting as it may be, they both have their punishment coming:
Youmna for ending up with a man who assigns value to the virginity of his wife (yes, I find that ridiculous), and her husband for marrying someone who obviously tricked him into believing she has that “value”.
It’s a lose-lose situation if you ask me.
the person she is deceiving most is herself. Her future hubbie might or might not find out. The worst he can do is divorce her and move on or forgive her and live with. He might stay with her and turn her life into a living hell. At the end,she will have to live with her choices.
Ppl can have opinions u know! I am disappointed , Ivy u could’ve just read and not have sour and bitter answers for anyone who doesnt like a certain post!! Don’t play God, ppl are free to say what they want whenever they want! If they don’t agree with u that doesn’t make them less smart or anything ! If u write a public forum , plz accept the public comments of ppl! And no personal jabs here, ppl can t like everything u write!
About ur post I totaly agree
like I said before “Lebanon: love it or hate it.. ”
Cheers
U ppl should read what ivy wrote and then what Mostapha wrote and see that he was attacking her for HER opinion.not vice versa sean u are now comparing ivy to PLAYING GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHA
ivy keep up the gr8 work lady
i don’t get mustapha’s comment or sean’s defense..
Ivy took Youmna as an example of an existing phenomenon in lebanon that i believe needs to be discussed openly..how come if the girl brought up the subject we say she is a wining blogger?and then unsubscribe from her feeds?how radical!
If every time a blogger will raise a sensitive subject, she/he will be a hater, then we have a problem..
and sean, mustapha didn’t give an opinion about the post, he insulted ivy personally ..he could have given his opinion about this whole issue without all the carrie bradshaw wannabe and resentment accusations..
anyway ivy, i’m glad a young lady is raising such issues to be discussed, and i hope you will even go wilder!good job
Yo Ghassan, cut down ur Hahahaha’s boy, it’s a saying u genius!
Shana and Senior Haha, I am just saying that if u write about a sensitive issue people are gonna have reactions! It’s what public blogs and forums are all about, noone insulted anyone as I read it. He had a different POV that’s all. Blogs are not only there for ppl to agree with u and say ” oh how nice!” Or ” u go girl” people are different!
Vive la difference…and Freedom of speech!
If I don’t like what u say I am free to express myself! And that’s that.
@Mustapha, relax dude, and read the whole post before u start arguing just for the sake of arguing, i follow both your blog and ivy’s and i’ve noticed on many occasions you just oppose Ivy and get aggressive just for the sake of it.
If you have read the post and really understood it, you would have understood that it wasn’t the case of “she was wild in her youth and then sobered up…” it’s about the mentality of changing who you are and taking a completely different role just for the sake of getting married (her goal)
Why shouldn’t she look for a guy who would accept her for who she is.
this post is from the female point of view, nothing about the “decent” man, whom ivy might have wished to address in a different post.
As for the just “unsubscribed from your feed” wow! that was childish, and considering your posts are mostly just a link, followed by a one line opinion (or copy paste) i’ve just unsubscribed from ur feed.
Great post Ivy. Thanks for bringing up this sensitive subject, no matter what the reactions
WOW! If it takes a trip to a plastic surgeon to get a husband is it really worth it?
Ughh..its like you’re talking about my cousin.,the only difference is she got herself a hubby and now she has a baby kid. She is scared to look me in the eyes at family meetings, for i am the only one who knows about her past
J’adore!!! So well written and so accurate!