My relationship with Timmy burnt out too fast. In fact I didn’t take my own advice. I let it go from fling to boyfriend in a week. When he told me he loved me last week that’s when my alarm went on and shit hit the fan.
But of course every girl wants to be loved, but an “ I Love you“ in one month? He wanted to be with me every single day. He introduced me to his parents. He showered me with gifts. He picked me up from my girls nights out. He even gave my girlfriends dating advice.
The fact of the matter is Timmy was nice. Too nice. He was perfect. I sabotaged our relationship. I tried to get him jealous, tried to get him angry, tried just about anything to get him to do a single negative thing. And all he did was stare at me with those puppy dog eyes and tell me how cute my cheeks look when I’m pissed off.
He drove me crazy. Maybe I’m crazy to let someone as good looking and nice as him go. Maybe I’ve gotten used to assholes that I just can’t function with a sweet man or maybe nice men love mean girls or perhaps its true, nice guys finish last. I’m gonna be looking into this one. Bisoux
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and Voila this is the first time i hit the Dis-Like button on your blog.
But that of course will not stop me from returning to read more posts
Keep Blogging, but have mercy on Nice men.
Why did you do that to him? What was your inner most motivation?
My girlfriend left me i feel for this reason (partly also because i’m of a lower social standing)
In my opinion, from observing many old couples (including my failed parent’s), if you plan to get married, you shouldnt let him go if he’s really nice, because most men wont always be nice with time.
Otherwise, if you dont care about settling, the hell with nice. Because, when men wont be nice to you later in life after your 40s, you will regret having been generous or nice in your youth. Not that you would want to be mean or anything, but unfortunatly, people relate kindness to “ringardise”, and you will feel like a “ringarde”.
you’ll be ok, kiddo, you’ve got a lot to learn…
Sorry Ivy, I 100% disagree
“nice guys finish last” is UNTRUE–it’s a lie told over and over again
If a nice guy gets dumped–the reason is not “because he was nice” it was because of other qualities that he did not possess/had too much of, for example:
1) he was too needy
2) he did not have his own personality
3) he was not confident enough
4) he was not hot enough
5) he gave you no space/was too clingy
You want to be with someone who values himself and has confidence in who they are–you don’t dump a guy such as Timmy because he’s “nice,” you dump him because in a week of dating he told you he loved you, he showered you with presents, he introduced you to his parents–its not “nice,” its needy and clingy
~LZ
Yay Ivy… important point to be made. There is no perfect person who does things in a perfect way. There is the one who does things the way YOU like it. Some people don’t like the spice and the give-take. Let them find the Timmys of the world. (In fact, I have a few ex’s who would probably get along GREAT with him – I’ll pass you their contact info – you can set them up). If there is one thing my mom taught me (and there are many) relationships are supposed to be fun. If its boring after a month and you can’t spice it up…move on.
I have reached to this post directly but i took some time reading through your Blog before i comment..
Interesting Blog.. i loved your Style of Writing and expressing your self..
Well just to do an opening, i’m writing a book on relationships, so i have read most of the books you might think of, (including “Why men love bitches / marry bitches… although it’s mainly for Women
”) interviewed Dozens of people and heard all the different point of views 
) … (i know… Long Opening 
)
Well IVY, You’re Normal… yes.. i’ve read / heard the same story over and over again… and if you read the book or watched the movie (He’s not that much into you… ) well it was your case.. you were not that much into him.. which is also: NORMAL! … (i agree with one of your readers who commented that it has nothing to do with him being Nice or not)
Now to the sad part of the story… which is the other “Party” … Timmy like a lot of other “nice” guys, DID like you or let’s say did try his best… he just didn’t have some other things on your list of “expectations” or maybe he didn’t balance them well in the timeframe he had.. (You should watch the movie “The Ugly Truth” too)
Bottom Line… Both of you are Normal and what happened with you is something that happen anywhere and does happen with everyone.. and has nothing to do with him being too nice or you being needy..
You will get over things quicker than you think; and since you live in Lebanon, i can tell that the reason why you reacted like that.. was because you got “SCARED”… which is Normal.. you just didn’t manage it well..
Cheers,
SC
Tout simplement it seems to me you weren’t as into him as he was into you. It’s not a matter of too much too soon. Regardless of how fast or slow things move, if two people are not in sync then that’s that. Just my two cents.
x
Wow you all make super strong points.. Who needs Cosmo when I got me some professionals
I’m meeting Timmy for a ” coffee” soon. Good idea? maybe not. Hopefully he won’t awaken any dead butterflies.
Bisoux
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Went through the same thing, and as LZ said, we do not dump them because they’re too nice.
After Mr.Clingy, I actually met two very nice boys, who I really liked and got along with, and their niceness posed no problem whatsoever. In contrast to Mr.Clingy, they had spines and character, and that is magnet.
To all the men out there, be nice, but do not lose your self-respect until you truly loves us