Comments on: What Men Really Want- Especially Lebanese Men

By: Jack

Jack — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:38:49 +0000

It’s really entertaining to read the above points, but really can you generalize Lebanese men or any men???? A Lebanese men is a mix of different cultures, every person is unique in their way of looking at life and their needs.

While everyone is just adding their personal point of views based on relationships, acquiantances, ……., I doubt you can ever have a true list of “What Lebanses Men Really Want” or in my case “What Lebanese Women Really Want”… :p

Cheers,

By: faure

faure — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 22:46:05 +0000

Thank you for your comment. I am noticing w/my Lebanese bf, in spite of his civil engineering degree, (and I have an art history degree Ivy League), that no matter how much I try to discourse with him—and a variety of topics—that he just doesn’t try or attempt to expand the discussion. We seem to be stuck in “how much he desires me” or “getting married” (sooner for him than later) and “how happy he will make me”. However I can say right now if he doesn’t find me fascinating now-in the bloom of romantic love-what will this say later? Sorry for the rhetorical question here.

I ask him question after question: crickets. I ask him “may I ask you some questions?” and get: “of course my love, anything……..” I ask and no answer. This is all via FB now. His silence continues into the next day where upon he writes me greeting me with the new day and all is love and light. It has turned into such a discernable pattern that I can’t let this go.

Here’s the caveat for me: he is so genuinely kind and sweet in all other areas that I cannot “see” the disconnect as well. At first I thought maybe there’s other women, etc………But now I ‘m thinking it is the differences within our cultures. I am used to Western men talking to me about everything, and now with him, I am thinking he perhaps was raised not to value intricate conversations between men and women. I write and write of my feelings and the feedback I get from him is “My girl’ My sweet and good crazy girl”, “we will be so happy together”, “I need you now” sort of thing.

I need help so much. He is so sweet and good, the thought of hurting him is just too much for me to bear now. He genuinely seems innocent and oblivous! HELP please.

By: Fodder

Fodder — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:22:07 +0000

Heh entertaining blog.
It is simple enough, yet i do not expect most of you to grasp it.
The standard throughoubred and raised lebanese male specimen is a worthless scumbag. These people are raised on a straight up idiotic,chauvanistic, and egocentric culture. Massive red X on those.

What you need is the mixed culture breed, ergo lebanese men who have spent a good portion of their lives abroad AWAY FROM ARAB INFLUENCE. The result is usually an intellectual with a much wider perspective on life, the good values of lebanon such as chivalry and a sense of honor, as well as consideration. The lebanese are not considerate by nature, they are a highly selfish populace. This issue dissipates upon exposure to western civilization.

I am such a sample specimen, and i have been blown off by europeans and americans before due to being lebanese, only to turn their opinions and consequently their lives upside down and inside out with the turn of a phrase.

Do not despair ladies, there is a god, and he comes in the form of the travelled and cultured lebanese man, the homebrewed kind is simply trash.

The ego is impossible to get rid of however :>

By: faure

faure — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 11:01:46 +0000

OMG Ladies dating Lebanese men help me plse. I have met a handsome amazing man from Lebanon working as a civil engineer in Iraq. He couldn’t be more charming and sweet, compimentary to me, and yet by the 4 or 5th message he was telling me he wanted to meet my father and one day be his son. I am from a wealthy family, very blonde, slender and he treats me as if I am some goddess from heaven, speaking of marriage on day, our babies we will have etc……….I tried to fight it off w/him, over and over. He is 26 and I am 24. He is coming out of a 5 year engagement w/a Lebanese girl, very attractive and finaly told me, he had sex w/other women while engaged to her b/c no normal healthy man could wait 5 years. I thought I was no fool, would never fall for lines like this but he is so utterly charming handsome I seem to not be able to get out from him. God he is utterly charming BUT as someone said above, calls me his Baby Girl. Also on his FB page on “Likes” the book “Lolita” is one of his favs. Now for those who don’t know, that book is about a pedo ending up marrying his young little step daughter after the wife dies. IDK but to have this as a favorite book? Flat out freaks me out, yet I let him get away w/so much b/c we are online and things can get confusing and backwards. So all he does it worship me I think b/c I am a pale blue eyed very blonde girl who has come from a neglected and wealthy family, He must see me as somewhat needy for love. I just am finding I cannot call him on what seems to be bullshit to me plus he doesn’t answer my questions abt important things on may occasions, as if he doesn’t hear me or something. He speaks to me as if I am the only girl on the planet for him and this sort of feelings and talk go straight to the empty lonely places in me. I have had bf’s and all this and been quite independent etc…..they are American but somehow this man has a hold on me I cannot shake. He says he is dangerously in love w/me and will let nothing separate us. He knows my home town and where I live now but that’s it. I am afraid he won’t let go of me and somehow will find me. Now he wants my phone no and address and I don’t want to give it to him b/c I fear him showing up one day and being crazy. Cause he say s he would die w/out me blah blah blah. I need help and advice plse Ladies, slap me silly into seeing what I cannot please thanks in advance.

By: Sarah Portman

Sarah Portman — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:59:01 +0000

Yeah I think you just need to go on a really nice romance tours one of these days.

By: Elise

Elise — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:36:01 +0000

I can’t agree more with Mariam, enough said. International ladies take it from a native and RUN FOR YOUR LIVES

By: Loulou

Loulou — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 16:47:04 +0000

There is positivity and negativity in everything. Thank you Allah I found a really beautiful Lebanese man. BUT he is 38 and I am 29. I think the key is to find a MAN over 30 … or so… its not about being lebanese, as there are many PEOPLE who abuse trust. Yes, lebanese culture can be quite confusing and full on… but its full on for lebanese people and most of the time it needs to be for show, to save face and respect for our elders. You will find many people liberal and free in their views on life, whether they are christian or muslim. Its about following your heart. There are many demands on what a lebanese man wants from a woman, however you dont have to commit to those demands, you are free to chose… and what isnt perfect for you just isnt your NASIB.
I think the list is right most of the time however… the key word is NAMRADE they hate it… it doesnt work and the ‘attitude’ thing of the west doesnt work on them either… just a little tip.
Peace

By: Mariam

Mariam — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 09:02:52 +0000

Apparently, Lebanese guys everywhere are screwing girls over.

By: chocolategirl

chocolategirl — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 03:06:22 +0000

oh gf’s out there who are thinking abt dating lebanese guys- if you not lebanese dont do it- i agree with just some if you dont want drama in your life – dont date leb guys- yes they can be sweet and kind but they are not bf material- nancy i know all about what you saying
yes they may drive nice cars etc…but wont share their money with you- all they want is free time- i dont see any other guy wanting so much time to themselves- whats the deal???? with giving them all this free time you suppose to be dating- i may as well be single- LOL

By: AJ

AJ — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:43:41 +0000

Oh gf you are so right. Im an American and mt bf is also from Lebanon. I love him so much like you do yours. But Drama is all we seem to have. No matter how hard you try to please u can’t. But at the same time its so hard to walk away I do understand. Good luck to you.